How To Remain Positive In Difficult Times – 7 Ways

During a tough time of my life, I learned how to remain positive in difficult times.

My parents were fighting because of my father’s drinking.

At school, I was bullied, beaten and humiliated many times.

I longed to escape. So I hid away from the world, secluded into my bedroom, playing Nintendo for hours every day.

Escape did not help.

The more I hid away, the more negative thoughts ate away at my mind.

I felt worthless and empty, and I considered running away from home. I even packed my bags and prepared to leave one night until I thought of my mum and how much I would miss her.

Escape is never the right answer. Because, as Buddha said: Running away from a situation rarely achieves anything.

It took me years to learn that.

When I was 20, and in university, I started meditating. For the first time in my life, I felt true inner peace.

Lying in my university room on campus staring at the ceiling, it occurred to me that even though my life had been hard, most of my demons were in my mind.

To find happiness, I needed to remove demons from my mind.

The only way to rid me of those demons was from within. It was by changing my mindset that I would escape.

It’s the same for us all.

According to the National Opinion Research Center, 92 of Americans face at least one major negative event in their lifetime.

The right mindset gives us the strength to stay positive in tough times in life. With the right mindset you can stay positive during tough times.

If you’ve ever wondered:

  • How to stay positive at work
  • How to stay positive when sick
  • How to stay positive during lockdown

or how to stay positive working from home, these tips will help.

How To Remain Positive In Difficult Times [7 Ways]


These excellent techniques help us to remain positive.

1: To Remain Positive In Negative Times, Meditate daily

If you’re genuinely going to remain positive in negative situations, you’re going to need inner peace and calm.

For most people, it is too easy to become angry or upset when negative situations arise.

By meditating daily, you ensure that you’re always starting on the right foot. You can make sure that your baseline is calm and positive. That way, you’re more equipped to deal with negative situations when they occur.

But what meditation technique should you do? Get started with my positive-thinking meditation techniques.

2: To Remain Positive During Tough Times, Tell Yourself It’ll Pass

So you’re going through a difficult time. And you’re struggling to remain positive. Take the heat off yourself. Remind yourself the moment will pass. Always be hopeful in life.

Life is like a journey on which we take many paths. Some paths are easy to walk, they’re joyous, they’re enjoyable. Others are harder. But the problematic roads you cross will lead you towards another positive path.

When something negative happens, tell yourself “It’s just a moment. It’ll pass”.

When my father past away last year, I was deeply upset. I faced sadness and grief. I truly needed to know how to remain positive in this difficult time. I got through by changing the way I was thinking. Every time I experienced a sad thought, I would force myself to remember a happy time with my father. This trained my mind not to be falsely positive (which is never helpful) but to balance the negative with the positive. Ever since, it has been one of my favourite positive thinking strategies.

3: Take it as a challenge

Hands up who likes a good challenge? I know I do.

Negative situations are now one of my favourite challenges. Every time something negative happens, I tell myself, “This is a test of my positivity”. The trial gives me the motivation to remain positive, similar to how we fight to keep going when we’re running a marathon or conquering some other difficult physical feat.

When we view tough situations as a challenge, we change our mindsets. We start to use negative energy in positive ways.

Sometimes the key to happiness and success is to refuse to give in and to persevere.

4: I get by with a little help from my friends

I count myself lucky to have some amazing friends.

In November 2013, I had an incident in which I passed out and was rushed to the hospital.

It was terrifying.

I’d been fine, and I hadn’t had anything to drink or anything like that. So suddenly passing out and waking up in an ambulance was a serious concern. But there was my very good friend Vince. Vince is a fantastic guy, the type of guy who’s there for everyone. He rode in the ambulance with me, stayed in the hospital with me, and when I was let go, he took me out for a meal. A damn good friend. I am so grateful.

Turn to your friends at tough times. They will be there.

One of the things I’ve learnt with age is that when you ask people for help, they are genuinely pleased to help you. You’re not a burden. You’re not irritating anyone. People love to help. Being kind makes people happier and healthier. Heck, personally there are very few things in life that make me happier than helping a friend. When you’re facing an adverse time, let your friends be there for you.

5: Realise it’s not as bad as it feels

I bet you your situation is not as bad as you think it is.

I’ve been through a lot of rough times in my life (my father dying, going through depression, immigrating). During those negative times, life seemed too hard to tolerate. But now I look back, it is obvious to me that not one negative situation in my life was as bad as I thought it was.  

Sometimes the mind goes crazy, and your imagination blows things out of proportion. It’s one of the common types of negative thinking.

Evolution has trained the mind to think of the worst because when we are prepared for the worst, we are more able to survive it. Hence, negative thinking is essential to survival. But in the 21st Century, we no longer need to think that every shadow on the wall is a T-Rex.

Rein-in your negativity.

Things probably are not as bad as they seem. You’re going to get through. Good times will come again. Let’s keep everything in perspective.

This is particularly true when you’re dealing with other people. The human mind tends to perceive other people as threats because, again, of evolution. People that were more prepared to defend themselves were less likely to be killed. This is not helpful today, however. It is time we stop thinking of everyone in negative terms.

Are you upset because of something someone else has done? Did you expect too much from them? If so, know this; they almost definitely did not do anywhere near as much harm as you think they did, and their motivations were probably not malicious.

6: Live in the moment

Living in the moment is one of the main traits of positive people

Living in the moment helps us not to get stuck in the mind. Remember, the mind is often the real source of pain. By being mindful, we prevent ourselves from getting lost in negatives, such as painful memories.

One of the best ways how to remain positive in difficult times is by being mindful. Stay in the moment. And whatever you do, don’t sink into your head.

Mindfulness is a powerful way of relieving stress and anxiety. When you focus your mind on the present moment, you immediately nullify negative feelings and emotions.

7: Have fun

One of the best ways to remain positive in difficult times is by forcing yourself to have fun.

When you’re in a negative situation, the last thing you feel like doing is singing, dancing, goofing around, or laughing. However, those are perhaps the very things you should do. Because the moment you act in positive ways, you escape the negative mindset.

Laugh.

Love.

Sing.

Dance.

Do something fun. The negativity will vanish.

I learned this in 2012, when a doctor told me I had had a heart attack. At 30 years of age, I was not prepared to hear that I had suffered a heart attack. But that was what the doctor told me. I endured a stress reaction. For several days I was in a personal hell. Then, I started to live, love, sing and dance anyway. And one month later, after more results, it turned out that the doctor was wrong, and the heart-attack scare was nothing.

Sometimes what you think is awful is not a big deal at all.

8: Meditation For Difficult Times

There are so many reasons to use meditation for difficult times of your life.

By meditating, we can help ourselves to remain positive during the worst of moments:

  • Dealing with times of grief and sorrow
  • Losing a job.
  • Witnessing a seemingly impossible event.
  • Finding out someone has been disloyal.
  • Having to move to a new city suddenly.

All these life experiences can shake our stability, make us doubt our strength, and sometimes even make us question our sanity.

Many studies have shown the positive effects of using meditation for difficult times in life

Studies have proven the positive effects of using meditation at difficult times.

  • Meditation can lower stress
  • Meditation helps us concentrate and focus
  • and meditation helps us weather significant losses
  • but one of the most powerful benefits is we can turn to meditation at difficult times in our lives.

Meditation is a way to preserve our mental health and wellbeing; a constant we can rely upon when life seems to lack meaning or sense.

Painful Emotions And Memories

One of the best things about using meditation at difficult times is that helps us to deal with painful memories and flashbacks.

Flashbacks are a significant symptom of PTSD (Posttraumatic Stress Disorder) – a situation in which a person who has experienced trauma can suddenly be ‘whizzed’ into the past, re-experiencing traumatic events or reliving an awful moment.

One of the benefits of using meditation for stressful times is that it helps us to deal with these flashbacks.

The ancient practice also allowed them to obtain better control of their symptoms. The findings are crucial to anyone who may be suddenly ‘transported’ to a mental place in which they are uncomfortable. This might occur if you have an astral projection experience(also called ‘out of body experience’), which can leave you breathless and anxious.

Using meditation at difficult times will help to bring you back to the ‘the here and now’, or to a more tranquil, peaceful state in which (as occurs in transcendental meditation) that arises from ‘pure awareness’.

Adaptability

As mentioned above, you may be on a set path when you are suddenly forced to move to a new place, take up a new job, or reframe your goals.

A study by researchers at Leiden University found that meditation can promote adaptive behaviour, enabling practitioners to embrace new goals positively.

In the study, researchers tested two types of meditation: open monitor meditation (OMM) – which involves opening the mind to different thoughts and sensations; and focused attention meditation (FAM) – which involves focusing on one thought in particular. They found that FAM was more useful for adapting and adjusting behaviour with greater flexibility.

Mindfulness Meditation helps when Battling Disease

Around 1,735,350 people in the U.S. were diagnosed with cancer in 2018.

Because cancer can sometimes have little or no symptoms, a diagnosis can require a high degree of adaptation.

Cancer treatments like chemotherapy also bring about unexpected physical changes, including ‘chemo brain: 9’, which affects attention, memory, and executive function.

An Indiana University study found that mindfulness meditation was able to reduce post-cancer ‘brain fuzziness’ and help lower the stress associated with cancer therapy.

Distractions Don’t Work

It can be hard to focus during difficult times.

Receiving shocking news or knowing a life-changing meeting is coming up can make it very difficult to keep our mind focused on the important work we need to carry out until the highly awaited event takes place.

Studies, however, show that trying to distract yourself from a painful event wont help, and meditation will.

But one of the good things about meditation at difficult times is it helps us to focus.

A Massachusetts General Hospital study found that the positive effects of mindfulness on pain reduction and memory may result from an improved ability to regulate alpha brain waves.

This rhythm helps us ‘cut out’ distracting thoughts and information from our minds, thus helping us focus even when our environment is full of different stimuli.

Practical Advice 

Clearly, there are lots of excellent reasons to use meditation at difficult times.

But how do you do it?

You can intensively embrace meditation, by attending sessions or going on a retreat that is centred on one or more different techniques (such as mindfulness).

Lessons will teach you the right techniques and will really hone in on the proper way to breathe or focus on one thought or (in the case of mindfulness meditation) your present emotions, thoughts, and sensations.

However, if you want a small taste of how this practise can calm you down when things take an unexpected turn, a good place to start is by trying short exercises, many of which are available online or via apps like Calm, Mindbody, and Buddhify.

These apps take you through short exercises (it may just be a short mindfulness session lasting five minutes) or longer sessions for moments when you really need to ground yourself and connect with your inner world. The key is to include meditation in your life every day— even if it’s just for a few minutes a day. The more you meditate, the more you will feel empowered and confident in its ability to make a positive change to your life.

If there is one thing to expect from life, it is the occasional difficult times. Meditation, however, can help.

Rather than leading a fearful life and resisting change, it is important to be open to new experiences, even the most challenging ones. Meditating can help us stay focused, adapt to new goals, and weather unusual or traumatic experiences with greater strength and tranquillity.

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Paul Harrison

Paul Harrison is a qualified meditation teacher and writer with more than 15 years experience in meditation and mindfulness. He studied meditation in Oxford, UK, and Hamilton Ontario Canada, and earned his degree at Staffordshire University. Paul has helped thousands of people to discover their true potential through mindfulness, yoga and meditation. You can read his books on Amazon