The last thing you expect is to be depressed after losing weight.
But as we discussed in my big guide to curing depression, depressive thinking can happen for the weirdest reasons. After all, the average person experiences around 35000 negative thoughts per day.
One of the weirdest situations is when we feel depressed after losing weight.
You work hard trying to lose weight. You lose 100lbs. You should be happy, right?
Then why are so many women experiencing depression after weight loss?
I mean it’s ironic, more than anything. You know from your weight loss that junk food causes depression. But millions of people quit junk food, lose weight, and still feel depressed. What’s going on?
A lot of people suffer from depression after weight loss surgery, but even if you lose weight naturally, you may still face depression.
How do we explain this seemingly bizarre situation, and what do we do about it?
Don’t worry. There are answers.
Why You Feel Depressed After Losing Weight
Naturally, it is easy to feel depressed when losing weight if we do not hit our goals. That’s why enlightened people use meditation for weight loss—it strengthens the mind while we lose weight.
But millions of people feel depressed after losing weight when they are successful.
The problem is that all the time we are losing weight we are telling ourselves, I’m going to be beautiful. You tell yourself you’ll look like those women on TV and in magazines. You sweat your butt off (literally) until you’re the perfect weight. And then you look in the mirror.
You just don’t look like you thought you would.
You were supposed to be beautiful (and you are gorgeous, but perhaps you just don’t look quite how you wanted to).
When you got down to the right weight, you were supposed to have perfect skin, fantastic hair, a killer body… And even though you do look great, you are somehow still not satisfied. The problem is that even though you now look great, you’ve gotten so used to seeing your imperfections. You’ve trained your mind to notice all your minor faults. And just because you’re now the right weight doesn’t mean that your mind suddenly stops looking for imperfectionsYou’ve trained your mind to spot your faults, and your mind is continuing to do so.
Meditation can help with this.
Meditation trains us to accept the present moment reality no matter what it is, so even if you aren’t quite happy with your weight loss results, you will still be accepting of things, instead of doting on the negative.
You know what it’s like. Other people constantly tell you how good you look and how you’re so much healthier than you used to be, but some part of you refuses to listen and you still notice your minor flaws. That’s what it’s like getting depression after losing weight.
It happens because:
- In order to motivate yourself to lose weight, you constantly told yourself you will look perfect when you’re the right weight. You put unrealistic pressure on yourself. And the results don’t quite live up to your expectations.
- Then you make the right weight, and you look great, but not perfect. The motivation worked, but it left you with a hangover. Because you’re still noticing your imperfections.
- This is why the right mindset is vital. It helps with both motivation and emotions. And the right mindset is acceptance. You need to accept yourself for who you are and the way you look.
There is also another reason why people get depressed after losing weight. It’s because we lose the goal. Think about it. The entire time you were focused on getting in shape you felt motivated and you had a target. That goal gave you positive energy because you were working towards something. But now you’ve achieved that goal so you no longer need to work on it, and the result is a loss of purpose.
So what do we do about this? How do we stop feeling depressed after losing weight?
How To Avoid Depression After Weight Loss
If You Are Currently Losing Weight And Depressed
If you’re currently going through a weight loss plan, then there are steps you can take to avoid getting depression when you finish.
To avoid depression after weight loss, make sure you remain entirely realistic during the process. Of course, this can be difficult. When you’re losing weight, you’re constantly motivating yourself by saying all those exaggerated things like “I’ll look stunning when I’m the right weight.” But of course, you begin to believe this statement. You begin to believe that you will look stunning after losing weight. And when that doesn’t come to fruition, you feel depressed.
To combat this, make sure you have the right goal in mind.
Don’t make your weight loss about being thin or beautiful. You already are beautiful anyway. You don’t need to be skinny to be gorge. The whole idea is garbage.
Instead, motivate yourself by focusing on health. Tell yourself that the entire reason you’re losing weight is to be healthy. Health is the most important thing anyway, so that’s where you should be focusing.
Setting off on the right foot is always vital.
But what about if you already have lost weight and now you’re feeling depresse’d?
If you’re depressed after losing weight
The reason why you feel depressed after losing weight is likely one of two reasons:
- Now that you have achieved your weight loss goal, you are not sure what to focus on next. So you feel low in energy because you’re not focusing on a goal. Easy solution: choose your next goal.
- Because you don’t feel or look quite as sensational as you thought you would. You told yourself you’d be beautiful and feel amazing, but you don’t look quite as sensational as you had hoped. You look a little better, and you feel a little better, but it’s not the life-changing transformation you wanted it to be. The result is a disappointment.
Really, you shouldn’t be disappointed at all.
You have lost weight, and that’s a fantastic accomplishment. And you do feel better, which is excellent too.
Be thankful to yourself for all the hard work you put in to lose weight. Actually say to yourself “Thank you for giving me back my health.” Appreciation is immensely important.
Always remember: You have achieved something amazing, and you should appreciate it.
Some people experience low confidence after losing weight, too.
It’s important that you feel good about the fact that you set out to accomplish something challenging, and you did it!
You should be feeling confident right now. You’ve done extraordinarily well. Be sure to tell yourself how proud you are of yourself. Express your admiration of yourself.
Once you’re feeling good about your accomplishment, use your confidence to start on your next goal.
You should always have a health goal in mind to work towards. This motivates you to keep working on your health. Tell yourself “I’ve accomplished one major goal. Now it’s time for the next!” And begin working towards that goal.
Remember: it’s the journey, not the destination. One journey, your weight loss journey, is finished. Now it’s time to get started on the next journey.
Having lost weight, what would you like to accomplish next?
Having a goal in mind helps you to stay motivated and helps you to stay positive, warding off depression. You’ve already got down to the right weight, so what do you want to accomplish next? What would be absolutely amazing to you?
Personally, for me, I’d like to do a triathlon. That’s a challenge I’ve never done before. And it’s also a goal that will get me working towards my health and focusing on the positive. Simply having that goal in front of you is enough to make you feel great.
So, ask yourself: what do I want to do next?
Make it something that is important to you, and then set about getting it done.
There’s no reason you should be feeling depressed about weight loss. You’ve achieved something truly amazing. You should feel fantastic.
One last thing. If you really don’t feel fantastic, I’d like you to do one little thing for me, okay? I’d like you to treat yourself. You see, I reckon you deserve to have a good time, a little celebration, to mark your achievements. So, go out and go shopping, or take a vacation, or do whatever it is that you want to do. You deserve to be spoiled right now!