- You want to know how to live fearlessly? You have the power in you to live as fearlessly as a warrior. This simple technique makes it fun living the fearless life.
- I need to learn how to live fearlessly so I could live a positive life, not a life of fear.
- How I learned to to live fearlessly
- If you want to know how to live fearlessly, you have to accept change
- One of the best ways how to live fearlessly is to always do new things
- Want to be free from fear forever? Let me show you how to use Buddhist meditations for fear. They’re the reasons Zen masters have the minds of warriors. And you will too.
- So, here’s how to overcome fear based on everything we know
- Use This Meditation To Overcome Fear
- Fear Of Failure
- When you know how to overcome fear of failure, nothing can hold you back.
- All right. Time for you to step up, mate. Let’s get to it. Do you know how to overcome fear of failure or not? Answer these questions and you’ll know one way or another.
- Fear Of Rejection
- I was not about to let the fear of rejection ruin me
- How to Overcome Fear of Rejection
- Powerful Meditation To Stop All Fear
- The best way how to stop your fears is with this meditation technique
- Non-Religious Mantras for Fear
You want to know how to live fearlessly? You have the power in you to live as fearlessly as a warrior. This simple technique makes it fun living the fearless life.
Every time the phone rang in the call centre where I used to work, a part of my mind would ask me “Am I not worth more than this? Is this it for me, sitting here talking to investors I don’t even know?”
The disgruntled complaints I took made me grind my teeth. “Your service is terrible,” callers would say.
I’m just a call centre agent, can you please shut up? I wanted to say. But the boss was in the background so I’d bite my lip.
One time, when I was so bored I was practically yawning at the desk, a customer said, “Your company sucks.”
“Yes, maam, you’re correct,” I said.
“Excuse me? I want to talk to a manager, immediately.”
… “We’re very dissatisfied with your attitude,” the boss said. “We would fire you, but your statistics are so good. We need you here.”
So maybe you should pay me more and treat me better, is what I felt like saying, but again I bit my lip.
Within a few months I was so sick of everything that once every week I told my boss I had diarrhea so I could take the day off—no one ever questions diarrhea.
During those days off I’d stare into the mirror, look myself in the eyes and say, “What the hell do you think you’re doing? You’re wasting your life away. Quit that crappy job.”
But I needed the job. I had bills to pay. My girlfriend wasn’t working. And my family and friends expected me to do this 9-5 thing even if it was bullshit.
I was afraid of leaving my job.
I was afraid of jacking it in. Fear had me in its grasp, as fear does with most people. Doesn’t matter whether it’s fear of the dentist, fear of flying, fear of public speaking, or fear of losing your job… your fear grabs you by the balls and squeezes them tight.
Pardon the French. But that’s the reality, isn’t it?
Tension was in my mind. Because my mind was torn in two. Quit that job one part of me said. But people will judge me if I’m not working and I won’t be able to pay the bills, said the other part.
Of course those two parts were like yin and yang. One was fear. One was hope. But at that time I didn’t know how to live fearlessly. So the split in my mind was a major problem.
I need to learn how to live fearlessly so I could live a positive life, not a life of fear.
I was divided in two.
One part was optimism, the idea of doing something better, the other part was fear, the idea that if I left my job I’d end up with friends mocking me for being unemployed and my girlfriend leaving me.
That’s always the way. Fear and hope are two sides of the same coin. They’re two polar opposites, magnetic polls with equal force, both trying to move you in opposite directions with the same force, so that they neutral each other out and you end up going nowhere.
At that time, I had no clue how to live fearlessly. Thankfully, I was about to learn precisely how to live fearlessly, and my fearless new life would begin.
Staring deep into my own eyes in the bathroom mirror, I knew that what I needed most wasn’t a new job. The job was secondary. The work wasn’t the real issue. There was something deeper, something intangible.
What I really needed was to conquer fear so that I could live a new life. Because while fear had its stranglehold around my neck I wouldn’t ever get anywhere.
I needed to conquer fear. I needed to learn how to live fearlessly. I needed to face the fear in my life and beat it.
I immediately grabbed my pen and paper–as a writer, the answer to everything is found in pen and paper (or keyboard and screen).
So I grabbed pen and paper. And I divided that paper in two down the middle.
There were two sides of my problem. One side was the fear of doing something new. The other side was the act of doing something new.
So I divided the paper in two, labeled one side Fear and the other side New. And told myself that I was going to fill the page with ticks as I beat fears and did new things.
This was to be a game. Every time I either conquered a fear or did something new, I would put a tick in the corresponding table of the paper. Beat a fear, put a tick in the fear box, do something new, put a tick in the new box.
This idea had come spontaneously, but it was inspired by years of reading psychological articles.
How I learned to to live fearlessly
I knew two things for certain. The first was that either I would stop fear or fear would stop me. And secondly, I knew the reason I was so afraid of quitting my job was because the brain naturally hates change.
Your brain has been taught, through evolution, that change is a threat. Your brain started to learn this millions of years ago with the cavemen.
It’s very easy, as a caveman, to stay in your cave where there are no lions. Stay in your cave and you probably won’t be eaten. Venture out of your cave and you might feel teeth penetrating your flesh.
Problem is that if you don’t venture out of the cave you won’t ever get food so you’ll end up starving to death.
Flash forward in time to today and things haven’t really changed that much. Change is still fear and hope combined. Quit your day job and you might end up broke. But don’t change your day job and you might bore yourself to death.
That’s why most people change only a tiny bit, only as much as is absolutely necessary, so they’re safe but also don’t starve. Most people do not live fearlessly, even though they wish they could.
Most people who quit their job get a very similar job at a very similar company doing a very similar thing. And then they’ll say, “I can’t believe this new company is treating me as badly as the first one!” But of course they have not really learned how to live without fear. They’re still reverting back to the life they know.
If you want to know how to live fearlessly, you have to accept change
People fear change. That’s a psychological fact. And if you want to know how to live fearlessly, you have to start by overcoming your fear of change.
Problem is, if you’re the type of person who teats life like an adventure and whats to make the most of every minute, you have to be willing to accept change and try new things. In other words, if you want to get a lot of living done while you’re on this Earth, you have to overcome your brain’s fear of change.
So I devised my little way to train my brain to overcome fear and to do new things. This was when I started to learn how to live fearlessly.
The little table I’d drawn on the paper in front of me, that sheet that would chronicle the times I conquered fear and the times I did something new, that wasn’t just paper and ink, that was neuroscience turned into a little game, it was a training program for my brain, a way in which I could teach my brain to overcome fear and to try new things in life.
Armed with my paper and pen, I set out into the world, determined to conquer fear. But I knew that if I was to do this thing right I had to be my own best friend. If I’d told myself, “Just hand in your resignation note and start living your new life” I wouldn’t have done it. That would have been like going to the gym for the first time and bench-pressing 350lbs. Not going to happen.
I started small. At this point I might have learnt the basic idea of how to live fearlessly, but I was still a novice. So there would be no Herculean feats. No Everest challenges. Small stuff, so my brain could build those muscles and get stronger, overcoming fear one step at a time.
It started, as it does for a lot of guys, with talking to women. I was a shy guy. Talking wasn’t my strong point. My face would turn ruddy and I’d mumble when I spoke to a girl I liked. Sounds lame. Was lame. But it was my reality back then.
So I would go into the city and find women I liked. And I would just talk to them. Not using pick-up lines. Yuck. Not my style. Just chatting to them about whatever was happening, casually, you know, small talk. Talk to a girl, put a tick in the box.
I was afraid of the dentist too. Thought that son of a bitch would rip all my teeth out and charge me thousands for the privilege. So I went to the dentist. Put a tick in the box.
One of the best ways how to live fearlessly is to always do new things
While I was beating my fears on by one I was also trying new things. I did that because novelty is very important to the health of your brain. If you want your mind to get stronger you have to constantly do new things.
Meanwhile, I’d also try new things, not conquering fear, just doing new things to inject some neural-plasticity into my brain.
Novelty is actually incredibly important for the brain. Doing new things creates new neural connection in the brain, making you more intelligent. So I did new things. I took up Capoeira (a Brazilian martial art), I got involved with amateur dramatics, I took classical singing lessons. And all this novelty ignited my brain and sparked my neurons.
Sure enough the muscles built. I began to be able to conquer bigger fears and do more radical new things. Two years into this practice my brain was so jacked-up that when I got the opportunity to move country to Canada, I took it gladly, not fearing the unknown, just excited to be so alive. And when those 711 tires rolled of the tarmac at Heathrow and the streets of London faded into the distance, soon looking no bigger than silver worms… I knew I had conquered my fears.
I still have that pen and paper. It’s next to me now. I still put ticks in those boxes. I still challenge my fear and engage in novelty. And when I look back now, I know that those 5 minutes, years ago, when I looked in the mirror and devised my game of “Tick the box”, those five minutes changed my life forever.
Overcoming Fear Using Buddhism And Meditation
Want to be free from fear forever? Let me show you how to use Buddhist meditations for fear. They’re the reasons Zen masters have the minds of warriors. And you will too.
No matter what you are afraid of, there is one truth about fear. Whether you’re afraid of flying, afraid of public speaking, afraid of death or anything else, fear is entirely in your mind. And if fear is only in your mind, then you can control it.
Zen warriors live fearless lives. And they get there because they train their minds ever bit as hard as athletes train their bodies. They start by asking one simple question. What causes fear in the first place? If fear is in your mind, how did it get there? .
How does your mind create fear?
To answer this question let’s look at an example.
An example of fear of heights
This is a classic Zen story that teaches about how fear gets into your mind.
One day, a young boy went with his father to climb a tall hill. He was awfully excited because he’d never been to such a high place before. He wondered what it would be like to look down on his home from such a height.
The boy and his father climbed the hill. Looking down from a great height, the boy felt powerful, as though he were above the world. His mind was abuzz with the sense of height. Then, all of a sudden he felt a sharp stinging sensation in his leg. It was agonising. His head was bursting with pain. The boy looked down and saw a snake. He fainted with fright and woke up in bed, safe but in pain and terrified by what had happened. He’d never been to such a height before. He’d been excited about it but it had only led to pain. Every time he thought about heights from that moment on, he felt a pain in his leg and fear in his mind.
This is an example of how fear enters our minds.
Logically, the boy needn’t be afraid of heights because it was the snake that bit him, he should be afraid of snakes, but then, the mind most often is not logical. Through association the boy has acquired a fear of heights. But importantly, the fear is only in his mind.
Fear is illogical. It is a delusion created by the mind. And only the mind can stop it. But how?
This meditation technique will end your fear
So you read the story above. And you now know that fear entered the boy’s mind illogically. There is no logical reason why the boy should be afraid of heights, but fear works that way. It is illogical. But despite being illogical it is very real, and you have to stop it. Because if you do not stop fear, fear will stop you.
So how do you stop fear? Understand that…
Fear is based on association.
Every time the boy thinks of heights he remembers the pain in his leg and sees a snake in his mind’s eye. The problem, and the cause of the fear, is that the boy cannot think about heights without thinking about pain and snakes. The key, then, to overcoming the fear of heights is to untangle the mind. And you can do that with meditation.
So what does the story teach you about your own fear?
Your fear is illogical.
Your fear is illogical
Your fear is based on an association (for instance, if you’re afraid of spiders
Here’s an example from my own life.
When I was sixteen I asked a girl out. I was very shy. It was the first time I had ever done it. She, however, turned around and said no. Which was fine. At that point I was actually just happy that I had found the guts to ask someone out. But she then went and told her friends. And because she was so popular the entire year found out. Including the bullies. And they decided to humiliate me for it in school assembly.
I was then afraid to ask anyone out, in case everyone found out and ended up ridiculing me for it. My mind associated asking someone out with being humiliated in front of a lot of people. you can see how that mindset came about. But it was nevertheless illogical. The odds on the situation happening again are very low. But nevertheless, a fear was produced in me that day and it took a lot of meditation to overcome that fear. Thankfully I’m a Zen warrior so I know how to bring my mind back to complete peace and serenity. (I used a lot of different meditation techniques).
I hope that story shows you how fear comes about.
So how do you overcome fear.
So, here’s how to overcome fear based on everything we know
Fear is created by the mind
Fear is illogical
Fear is created by association. For 16 year old me, for instance, I associated asking a girl out with being humiliated in front of hundreds of people (see above).
Those associations are like glue. So for 16 year old me, I’ve got this idea of being humiliated. And that idea is glued on to the idea of asking someone out. So I cannot think about asking someone out without thinking about being humiliated (well, I can now thanks to my inner Zen).
To overcome fear you need to remove the associations.
Use This Meditation To Overcome Fear
1) Close your eyes and begin to meditate
2) Think about your fear. Bring an image of your fear to mind gently (in our example the thought is of height)
3) Thinking of heights (for our example boy) will bring up thoughts and snakes and pain. Very gently, move these images apart so you are able to see that they are three distinct pictures. One picture is height, the other snake the other pain. Recognise that these images are separate.
4) Continue meditating on breath to relax for a few moments.
5) Bring the fear image (in our example this is height) to mind and meditate on it. Recognise the image and idea of “Height” as its own entity. It is not connected to anything else (snakes and pain) it is just an image of height.
6) Continue in this fashion, recognising the basic truth of your fear.
As you practice this technique you will quiet your mind and produce peace, which will naturally stop fear.
By meditating in this fashion you disassociate the primary idea (height) from the negative that produce the fear (snakes and pain). This is the key to meditation for fear and is the best way how to overcome fear.
Fear Of Failure
- Fear is what holds people back from living your dreams.
- When we overcome fear of failure we create powerful momentum that carries us into our dream-life.
- Enlightened people have a unique perspective that stops fear of failure. We’ll reveal it in this article.
When you know how to overcome fear of failure, nothing can hold you back.
It is completely natural to feel fear. Those butterflies you feel in your stomach when you get nervous? Everyone feels those same butterflies (whether they admit it or not).
But where courageous people power through their fears, the weak cave in to them.
Everything worth doing carries with it a fear. Because every success could potentially be a failure.
Every success worth attaining comes with a possibility of failure. When NASA fires space shuttles to the moon they know there’s a chance that the space shuttle might not make it. The possibility of success, of landing on the moon, is gambled against the possibility of failure, of seeing the space shuttle explode and the astronauts dead.
Sure, NASA could play it safe. They could keep their shuttles locked up. They could stop space travel. But mankind wasn’t built to cave in at the possibility of failure. Mankind was made to power through the fear of failure and conquer.
Every great mission starts that same way. We see the goal, the success, and we see the possible failure. And we decide. We do this? We don’t do this? We overcome fear? We cave in to it?
The possibilities of fear and failure follow us every day of our lives.
You want a raise. Your boss could fire you for asking. You ask? You don’t ask?
You see someone you’re really attracted to. You talk to them? You don’t talk to them?
You dream of becoming a famous artist, but that means quitting your job to follow your passion. You follow your dream? You don’t follow your dream? You might end up poor. Still, is it better to be poor and happy or rich and unhappy? Who knows? Lot’s of people are afraid to find out.
Fear of failure is there always. And it’s up to you to overcome it. You have to decide to face the fear in your life and beat it.
So ask yourself, right now, while you’ve got the power to change: Are you suffering from fear of failure?
All right. Time for you to step up, mate. Let’s get to it. Do you know how to overcome fear of failure or not? Answer these questions and you’ll know one way or another.
- I’m afraid to fail.
- I play it too safe.
- I’m afraid of choking before a group.
- I worry about making mistakes.
- I’m afraid of disapproval.
- I worry about looking incompetent.
- I dread I won’t do well enough.
- I lack confidence in my abilities.
- I feel anxious when uncertain.
- Others will evaluate me negatively.
Test from Bill Knaus on Psychology Today
If you answered yes to any one question, you’ve found a weak spot in your psyche that you can work on.
Answered YES to Play It Safe? Conquer that. Beat that. Find ways to not play it safe. And do it today (time is the essence of all things). Do it today and tomorrow you’ll be stronger.
Think others will judge you negatively? Yeah. Tons of people suffer that fear. Don’t take it. Don’t let that be your downfall. Smash that fear to smitherines. Do something, TODAY, that you think people might judge you negatively for. Overcome that fear. You’ll grow stronger.
We’re building our strength and overcoming fear. Let’s continue this.
So you know you’ll fail? That’s great. Fail. And grow stronger from it.
Failure means falling short. It means not getting the result you want. You got a B+ but you wanted an A. You ran that mile in 5 minutes, you wanted 4 and a half. Failure.
Crazy thing is, failure isn’t failure.
Failure is lesser success.
You ran a mile in 5 minutes but you wanted to do it in four and a half. That’s not failure. That’s success to a slighter less degree than you anticipated.
You wanted to write a bestseller. But your book only sold a hundred copies and most of those were to friends and family. That’s not failure .That’s success to a lesser degree than you anticipated.
You wanted to get a first class honours degree. You got second with honours. That’s not failure. That’s success to a lesser degree than you anticipated.
Stop saying you’re failing. Why lie to yourself? You’re not failing. You’re succeeding, but at a slightly slower rate than you would want. Maybe if you stopped expecting too much you would be happy.
Besides, every time you do fail you will get closer to success. Having run that mile in five minutes you’re that much closer to running it in 4 and a half.
And really, you’ve got ask yourself, have you really failed for trying something and getting a good but not great result? And if so, is the failure in the result, or in the unfair expectation you placed on yourself when you started out?
Truth is, if you fail anywhere it’s not in the result, it’s in the prediction
99% of the time, the end result of something is not the failure. You wanted your start-up company to make a million this year but you made 50 grand. The failure there isn’t the 50 grand. The failure is your wrong prediction. That’s the failure.
And this is the vital point: Your fear of failure stems from your predictions, and it’s your predictions that are wrong in the first place.
Why does it hurt to get second when you wanted first? Because you wanted first.
Why does it mess you up to make $50,000 a year when you wanted $100,000? Because you wanted $100,000.
Why does it sting when your blog gets 80,000 hits a month and you wanted 200,000? Because you wanted 200,000.
It’s the prediction that stings. It’s the fact that you told yourself you were going to do something, and then you didn’t quite meet your own expectations.
You can see how to overcome fear of failure now, right?
Your fear is based on the idea of not meeting your own expectations. OR of not meeting someone else’s expectations.
So how so you overcome fear of failure? Simple. Stop making your expectations the be all and end all.
Results are not what matters in life. What matters is the journey. So your start-up made $20,000 less than you expected. How much did you learn along the way? How much fun did you have? How much did you grow?
When you say to yourself “I want $50,000 from this thing this year” you’re placing your entire stock in one arbitrary figure.
Life’s deeper than that.
Life’s not about results. It’s about the journey.
And besides, even if you were perfect would you be happy?
If you want to know how to overcome the fear of failure, throw your expectations out the window. Don’t base your life on facts and figures. Open your mind to the bigger picture.
When you base your existence on the journey and not on the destination, you cannot fail, because no matter where you go, so long as you keep moving you will have been on a grand journey.
And that’s the key to overcoming fear of failure: Throw those damn expectations out the window, and live for the actual moments of your life.
Fear be damned.
Fear Of Rejection
Let’s be legit. Most people suffer from fear of rejection. And the sooner we all learn how to overcome fear of rejection, the better.
What are you afraid of? Getting rejected by a hot girl or a cute guy? Are you afraid of being rejected for a job application? Got fear of being rejected by your friends?
Rejections are one of the things people fear most. But we don’t have to take that fear. There are tons of great ways how to overcome the fear of rejection.
Most people gradually get over the fear of rejection as they get older. But for some people fear of rejection is crippling.
When I was fifteen I told a girl in the year above me that I had feeling for her. She looked shocked and disgusted. And then she told her friends. Her friends then brought it up in assembly, and within a few hours of me having privately told this girl how I felt the entire year knee, and then the entire school. And I was bullied by her friends. And the entire situation became a shitstorm that totally wrecked me for years.
You ever face anything like that? Probably, right? Because the worst cases of fear of rejection come from someone acting like a douche or a bitch. And it can be hard to overcome the fear of rejection when you’ve been through something like that. Hard. But not impossible. And the truth is, if you want to live to the Pepsi max, you’ve got to face the fear in your life.
I was not about to let the fear of rejection ruin me
So thanks to this girl, fifteen year old me was terrified of being rejected. It would take a long time to get over that.
Next couple of years I didn’t ask a girl out. I got asked out a few times. Said yes to a couple of them and very politely declined the others (cause I’ll be damned if I’m going to do to a girl what one girl did to me).
And I fought to overcome my fear of rejection.
I learnt tons of different techniques for overcoming fear.
And I learnt how t master fear.
Now I would like to share my strategies with you.
How to Overcome Fear of Rejection
Change the way you feel about being rejected
If you have a fear of rejection you’re totally looking at rejection the wrong way. Change that. Change your attitude. (Take a look at these 7 enlightened attitudes for some ideas).
For instance, let’s say you’re afraid of being rejected for a job. Chill. Do not look at this rejection lie a boss saying, for instance, “You are totally unfit to work anywhere and are in fact humanity’s biggest failure”. Okay. So I enhanced that for dramatic effect. But don’t look at rejection like a fatal thing.
If you fear being rejected by the opposite sex, by a hot girl or a cute guy, chill. They’re not saying, “You’re a terrible person who is so ugly your face is basically a form of social terrorism”. No. It just means that maybe you’re not quite the right one for them, for that one individual person, that’s all. Next girl might say yes.
Being too dramatic about it well ruin you.
Rejection from one person is not a rejection from the rest, yet nevertheless, when we are the ones being rejected ourselves, this is how it feels. How then do we correct this negative view of rejection? The answer is by objectively observing the fact that we harbor such negative views and by challenging them.
You need to learn to stop your negative thoughts (click that link to learn how to do it).
Accept rejection. Because it’s fine.
Allow yourself to nonjudgementally observe your views on rejection.
Think of being rejected and simply be aware of the presumptions you make about rejection.
For example, does a rejection from a member of the opposite sex mean you are ugly? That you have a bad personality? That no one likes you?
Be aware of your mental delusions. Write them down if it helps.
Actually, scratch that. Go ahead right now and write a list of all the negative things you think about rejection. Then read the list back. You will be mind blown by how full of crap you are. I don’t mean that personally. People create so much drama in their own minds and it is all bullshit. Write that list and read it. I promise you will be stunned. This is why I keep a belief journal.
Go through that list of thoughts and beliefs and challenge them one by one. This will change your mind. And changing your mind will change your life.
On a Good Day, Intentionally Get Rejected
This is one of the best ways how to get rejected.
The idea is to wait until you have a fantastic day, a day when something happens to you that is so great you couldn’t possibly feel bad.
For example, if you’ve just gotten your exam results and you aced them. At such a time a rejection isn’t going to mean a big deal to you because the negative that is the rejection is completely eclipsed by the positive that is the exam results. Take advantage of this. Go up to that super-hot woman and ask her out, cause heck, if she rejects you now then sod her, you just aced your exams, who cares?!
One time I was in London when I was accepted for an acting role that I really wanted. Nothing could kill my happiness. I knew that. So I thought screw it. I went up to a smoking hot city girl. The type of girl a country guy like me would seriously struggle to get. I asked her out. She said “No.” I said “Thank you” and smiled. She was amazed. She then said “Wait. Screw it. Let’s go grab a coffee”. Weird and wonderful, like all the best things in life.
Intentionally get rejected when you know you wont care. Then you will teach your brain that rejection is no big deal.
Vividly imagine the Moment after being Rejected
One of the biggest mistakes made by those with a fear of rejection is to presume that rejection is the end of the world.
The way how to overcome fear of rejection is to rid ourselves of this overly dramatic view.
Our fear often stops us from realising that life will go on after we are rejected. The problem with this is that we construct in ourselves a mental habit of repressing thoughts of rejection. We actually teach ourselves to keep away from thinking about anything that might lead to rejection because we are so afraid of it. So your fear makes it impossible for you to ask anything that you might be rejected for.
Stop repressing your fear. Allow your fears to come to the surface. It’s only then that you can get rid of them. So, allow yourself to imagine a three stage process.
- Bring to mind the event of which you are afraid of (for example, asking someone out),
- Think about being rejected (actually imagine the other person turning you down)
- Imagine a positive event occurring immediately after the rejection (for instance, you are absolutely thrilled because you have overcome a fear).
By imagining this three stage process over and over again, you will learn to recognise that life goes on after the rejection, and this will dramatically reduce your fear of being rejected.
Focus on the Benefits
Okay, so far in finding how to overcome fear of rejection, we have presented some pretty serious and in some cases daunting strategies for facing fear of rejection.
This one, however, is a lot more fun.
Simply drill into your head the positives of doing the thing of which you are afraid (for example, imagine being accepted for the job) AND (and this is very important) every time you think of this positive, match it with a positive thing that would happen after you have been rejected.
To clarify this. Imagine you get the job (step one) but also imagine that you got rejected but because of being rejected you found a better job (step two). This will create a win / win situation in your mind. And because it’s a win / win you will have nothing to be afraid of.
Powerful Meditation To Stop All Fear
The best way how to stop your fears is with this meditation technique
This meditation technique will change the way you think about fear so that you can begin to live fearlessly. And you might like to try these Buddhist meditations for fear too.
1) Think about the thing you are afraid of. Create some sort of mental image of it. I’m going to use fear of rejection for an example as it’s a common fear. So let’s say a guy is afraid of being rejected by women. Think about that fear.
2) Intensify the fear. Imagine the fear in the worst possible way. The guy gets rejected by the girl and beaten up by the boyfriend he was unaware of. That’s just an example. Just intensify the fear.
3) Now, imagine yourself living through that intensified fear BUT imagine something positive coming at the end of it. So, going back to our example 1) the guy imagine seeing the girl, 2) he approaches the girl, 3) he gets rejected, 4) he gets beaten up, 5) he picks himself up, starts doing martial arts, becomes tough and confident and from then on is fearless.
4) Imagine this scene a few times. Imagine living through your intensified fear and it resulting in something positive.
5) Focus on that process of a fear becoming a positive.
By the way, I don’t know why this works, I just know that it does. When you imagine living through your fear, doing what you’re afraid of, having a bad result but then (most important bit) it improving your life, you conquer fear.
Hidden in the depths of Buddhism, Hinduism, and yoga are mantras that can stop fear forever.
I’m sure you’ll agree with me: most people are full of fear.
And while you can do many things to stop fear (like these tips for overcoming fear like a Warrior) it is hard to stop fear completely.
Mantras can help.
In our complete guide to mantras we revealed hundreds of mantras for all different purposes.
Some of the most popular mantras are those that stop fear.
Why it’s crucial to stop fear
The Buddha said that the root cause of all suffering is the need to distance ourselves from the present moment.
The main reason we separate from the present moment is fear.
That’s why so many spiritual techniques focus on stopping fear.
But perhaps an even better way of stopping fear is with mantras.
By learning the powerful mantras for fear that I’ve shared below, you will learn to remove fear from your mind. This will create a deep sense of inner calm. It will empower you to live mindfully and in the moment.
Let’s start with some powerful non-religious mantras.
Non-Religious Mantras for Fear
Recite each of these mantras 10 times to start to train your mind to stop fear:
- “I liberate my mind from fear and negativity.”
- “I do not listen to fear in my mind.”
- “I am fearless and immovable.”
- “I embrace hope, love and optimism.”
- “I am an optimistic and hopeful person.”
Have you recited each of those ten times?
Those affirmations are a great way to start to end fear.
Let’s go further.
There are many sacred mantras that are said to completely stop fear.
Of these, the most powerful is the following:
The mantra for fear:
om shoun shokvinashibhyam Namaha
How to use this mantra:
- Sit in lotus position on the floor in a dark room
- Close your eyes
- Take up mala
- Recite this mantra 108 times.
This is a powerful sacred mantra to stop fear.