Listen: Being an empath is going to kill you unless you wake up to certain things. Being an empath is exhausting, it causes chronic fatigue syndrome, it makes you tired all the time, and there are health problems of being an empath too.
Trust me. I’ve been an empath my entire life, ever since I was a little kid. You know what it’s like:
- Soaking up other people’s emotions.
- Feeling other people’s pain.
- Suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome
- Feeling constantly tired and exhausted
- Having health problems because you’re tired all the time.
Yes it is a hard life. That’s why we need to learn how to survive as an empath.
Why Being An Empath Is Killing You
Being an empath means you are able to experience other people’s emotions like they were your own. It is similar to compassion [READ: Importance of Compassion in Life]
“Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain,” says Dr Judith Orloff, author of The Empaths Survival Guide.
“But, it goes much further “We actually feel other people’s emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defences that most people have.”
It’s not just other people, though. There are different types of empaths:
We can be empaths to:
- Weather (this is me)
- Animals (also me)
- Physical empath
- Geomatic (these guys feel the earth… crazy right?)
- Intuitive (also me)
- Emotional (definitely me)
If you’re an empath you’re probably notice the following signs:
- You sense other people’s feelings.
- You have insight into what’s going on in the inner world of people
- You often feel isolated because you exist on an emotional plain most people never reach.
- You share the pain of others.
- You feel tired and emotionally drained when you’re around emotional people
- Overall, it is as though you can psychically feel what other people are feeling.
As empaths, we have the psychic ability to feel other people’s emotions.
We are the most caring, most loving people around. And we deserve happiness and success. But instead, we feel tired all the time, suffer from chronic fatigue, and get various health problems precisely because we feel so much emotion from other people.
It is time we change this. It’s time we made the most of our empathy. And I am going to show you how. Below I will share my best tips for empaths.
But first, listen. A lot of people have asked me how to stop being an empath. Don’t. Never ask how to stop being an empath. Your heightened empathy is a gift. You just need to learn to control it. You need to learn to deal with both the pros and cons of being an empath.
You probably already know the biggest con: being an empath is killing you because you feel too much pain from other people.
Aristotle said: “To perceive is to suffer.”
When you’re a highly sensitive empath, you are more conscious of other people’s emotions, and this can lead to suffering.
Taking up other people’s emotions leads to chronic fatigue and emotional burnout.
This is why you may sometimes struggle in social situations.
“There is physical evidence within the brain that proves that highly sensitive individuals respond especially strongly to social situations that trigger emotions,” says Dr Aron, a Research Professor in Psychology at Stony Brook University.
It happens because we are constantly soaking up other people’s others.
For many, the emotional strain can cause chronic fatigue syndrome, which happens to be the main way that being an empath is killing you.
Studies show that there is a link between levels of empathy and chronic fatigue syndrome. If you have ever experienced a sudden and unexpected crash in energy levels, it might have been the result of heightened levels of fatigue, according to the latest research.
The Mayo Clinic defines adrenal fatigue syndrome as “a term applied to a collection of nonspecific symptoms, such as body aches, fatigue, nervousness, sleep disturbances and digestive problems.”
The adrenal glands are responsible for creating hormones that are essential to our health. Insufficient production of these hormones occurs in Addison’s disease.
You might have Addison’s disease if:
- You have hair loss
- You experience aches and pains
- You have rapidly lost weight
- You are experiencing loss of body hair
- You experience high levels of fatigue
The leading cause of chronic fatigue syndrome in empaths is stress caused by excessive emotion.
If you’ve been feeling stressed and tired, it is time to learn how to survive as an empath.
The Beautiful But Fatal Pros And Cons Of Being An Empath
I don’t want to put too much of a downer on it. In truth there are both pros and cons of being an empath. And that can be true. But there are disadvantages.
Early in life, being an empath was killing me because people were attacking me with gaslighting tactics. I found it exhausting and emotionally draining, and my health suffered as a consequence.
I used to wonder why I’m so sensitive. Why I am a highly empathetic person. I used to wonder why I’m cursed with high levels of empathy. And I used to see my heightened empathy as a problem.
But let me repeat it, there are pros and cons of being an empath. You just have to know how to make the most of it.
Pros of being an empath
Newsflash: Your heightened empathy and sensitivity is the result of superior intellect.
Because of your heightened feelings, you’re going to end up soaring high, going from one success to another, if you survive, that ist. If you manage to avoid the chronic fatigue syndrome and other health problems of being an empath.
Once we learn how to survive the cons of being an empath, we can start to use it to our advantage
Disagree? Consider this:
The importance and value of empathy were scientifically proven in a study conducted by the Center for Creative Leadership . The study investigated 6,731 leaders from 38 countries and concluded that empathy is positively related to job performance. This is especially true for managers. Managers with heightened levels of empathy are viewed as better performers in their job by their bosses. That’s just one of the advantages of being an empath
Judith Orlaff, M.D says:
“We empaths have many marvelous traits. We have huge hearts and the instinct to help others in need or who are less fortunate. We’re dreamers and idealists. We’re passionate, deep, and creative, in touch with our emotions, compassionate, and can see the big picture.”
So how do we survive as an empath?
Below are ten ways how to cope with being an empath. They’ll help you make the most of the benefits of being an empath, and reduce the impact of the cons of being an empath.
Cons of being an empath
Highly Sensitive / Empathetic people are precious individuals, but they are prone to issues.
“When empathy goes into overdrive, people put themselves at risk for mental health problems such as anxiety and depression and physical complications such as heart disease and high blood pressure,” says David Sack M.D.
Many people (especially clairsentient, sensitive, intuitive and lightworker types) can suffer from problems of overly active empathy.
If you’re one of them, you may have noticed that you do everything to make sure other people are happy, and it’s rarely requited.
You care more than other people.
Then you wonder why other people don’t care as much as you do.
This sense of caring-for people but not having people care about you can lead to a sense of isolation. It can also be very tiring and can cause empaths chronic fatigue syndrome because you’re tired continuously of soaking up other people’s emotions while struggling to deal with your own.
The biggest con of being an empath is fatigue from other people’s emotions. The best way how to cope with being an empath is to get alone time—tons of it.
Being an empath means we absorb too many emotions. Thoughts and feelings keep us up at night, resulting in sleep deprivation and possibly insomnia. The side effects of insomnia include anxiety, depression, stress, and a weakened immune system.
Not only is it hard to get to sleep at these times, but we are also likely to experience light sleeping. We will wake up often. And when we wake we may be troubled by the emotions of the people we’ve been around.
Restlessness is another con of being an empath. We are hypersensitive to the emotions of others. This can cause information overload, but not in the usual sense. This isn’t information overload from TV or the internet. It’s a spiritual kind of information overload. It’s psychological. It’s being overloaded with too many emotions, thoughts and feelings.
These thoughts and feelings consume the mind. And it isn’t easy to get out of the trap. It’s like a Chinese finger trap. The more you fight, the more stuck you get.
So let’s now look at how to survive as an empath.
10 Survival Tips For Empaths
“Empathy is the most precious human quality”— The Dalai Lama
Being an empath is a challenge. But like my man Bruce Lee said: “Pray not for an easy life, but for the strength to endure a challenging one.”
Being an empath, you already know what it feels like to have too much emotion. That’s the biggest con of being an empath. You know how difficult it can be to focus on your own needs and not to get overly involved in the emotions and needs of others. You know what it feels like to see a person cry and to feel the pain in them like it were your own.
Many of us struggle.
Statistics from Google show that thousands of people every month search for “Empath survival tips” or “How to cope with being an empath.”
You’ve got to be kidding me.
Remember, there are both pros and cons of being an empath. You need to manage the cons while taking advantage of the pros.
Here are ten ways to handle both the pros and cons of being an empath. You might also like to read my guide on using meditation to control emotions.
1: Stop drainers
Let’s deal with one of the biggest cons of being an empath: energy drainers.
Being an empath means you probably want to help everyone, right? The idea of distancing ourselves from negative people (whom I call “drainers”) makes us feel a little bit sick in the gut, doesn’t it? It feels selfish. It feels wrong.
Well, guess what?
Your emotional needs matter every bit as much as everyone else’s!
You value other people’s emotions. You hate it when other people are hurting. But you should hate it even more when you yourself are hurt.
Drainers are the main reason why empaths suffer. They are one of the main reasons for the link between empaths and fatigue!
We need to change that.
Tell one negative person in your life that you are distancing yourself from them. Do this right now. After all, momma always said to “strike while the iron is hot”. I’m not joking when I tell you to do this right now. Grow a set. Pick up your phone. Message one emotional drainer. Tell them why you are distancing yourself.
2: Get energy!
Both the number one pro and con of being an empath is that you absorb other people’s emotions.
Spend time with negative people, and they will rob you of your energy. Spend time with positive people, and you will absorb their positive energy. Drainers drain you. Energisers energise you. It really is that simple.
Appreciate all the positive people in your life. Express gratitude for them. Spend more time with them.
When you want to spend time with drainers, find situations in which they give out positive energy. Your drainer will exhibit positive energy in certain ways. Make use of that.
3: Create an energy shield
Your painful past wore down your mind’s defences. Good news: you can build them back up again.
The best way to rebuild your mind is by using your imagination.
One potent technique is to imagine an energy shield that prevents negative energy from entering your mind.
Around negative people? Imagine an energy shield surrounding you, preventing their negative energy from entering your mind.
4: Be mindful of your thoughts
Mindfulness is a beautiful gift for empaths. With the right mindfulness techniques, we can learn to manage both positive and negative energy.
Mindfulness makes you more aware of your thoughts and feelings. And once you are aware you will have control. So practice being mindful.
To cleanse the negative energy that has accumulated in your soul, practise forgiveness.
As empaths, we are more likely to suffer than most people. We experience heightened emotions that cause scars. And scars take time to heal.
The key to healing emotional scars is forgiveness.
Who can you forgive today? What negative energy can you release from your spirit right now?
6: Empaths and adrenal fatigue syndrome
All the pros and cons of being an empath revolve around emotions.
As empaths, we aren’t just more aware of other people’s emotions; we are more aware of our own feelings too. And we sometimes cling to those emotions like corral on a rock.
Emotional baggage causes the empath adrenal fatigue syndrome because all that emotion wears you down. Practising being mindful of your emotions and letting them go.
By being consciously aware of our emotions, and then imagining those emotions flowing out of our souls, we can cleanse our spirits of build-up emotions.
Practice letting go of old emotions. And embrace the new.
Inner peace is what most empaths crave. Being an empath means we’ve been through emotional pain. You likely know full well what it is to suffer. And the idea of inner peace seems like a distant dream.
Dreams are possible futures waiting to happen.
We can create inner peace with meditation. There are lots of benefits of meditation for empaths. It allows you to relax and to step away from all those emotions. It restores your energy. And it is also a quiet, peaceful time when you are by yourself and not being emotionally drained by other people.
8: Face the fear and say “No” anyway
We empaths are the nicest people around (and the most valuable). We live to help other people.
Reality check: we need to know when to say “No”.
As empaths, we know what it’s like to be taken for a ride. I bet someone has taken advantage of your empathy at some point, right? And they probably didn’t even say sorry.
We need to change that.
Make it a habit to say no to unreasonable requests.
9: Bathe your spirit in nature
A truly wonderful way solution for both the pros and cons of being an empath is to spend ti in nature, so you are away from other people are soaking up the positive energy of natural environments.
As an empath, when you are out in nature, you probably feel a tremendous sense of relief. You feel relaxed and tranquil. You can feel the positive energy flowing from the world into your spirit.
Empaths need to spend more time in nature. It is the best way to release pent-up emotions and to restore positive energy.
10: Change your perspective
Most things in life come down to perspective, including empathy.
Change your perspective on emotion, and you will change your life as an empath.
See the good in pain.
See the many life lessons that people gain through suffering.
Then, you will be less urgent to stop pain when you see it.
Pain is often the pathway to enlightenment. Do not be too sad for people when they are down. It might end up being the most important lesson they ever learn.
Reflect on your life. Is there anywhere you need a change of perspective?
11. Avoid the health pitfalls
You must learn to avoid all those empath health issues. The biggest issue for empaths is chronic fatigue syndrome, and should be addressed appropriately.
Being an empath will kill you unless you monitor stress levels and emotional levels and get enough downtown and rest.
We must have a point at which we say “enough”, a point at which we stop what we are doing and prioritise our health. When we start to feel overwhelmed, we must find solitude and unwind.
Yes, there are lots of pros and cons of being an empath. But you can cope. It doesn’t have to kill you!
Being an empath is a gift. We feel more than other people feel. Life is about feelings, about emotions, about experiences. We experience more, feel more, and understand more. That’s why, even though life is often a struggle for empaths, it is also a blessing. Yes, it’s hard. But it is also the most profound, most rewarding life.
Don’t just survive as an empath; thrive!