Listen: Being an empath is going to kill you unless you wake up to certain things. Being an empath is exhausting, it causes chornic fatigue syndrome, it makes you tired all the time, and there are health problems of being an empath too.
Trust me. I’ve been an empath my entire life, ever since I was a little kid. You know what it’s like:
- Soaking up other people’s emotions.
- Feeling other people’s pain.
- Suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome
- Feeling constantly tired and exhausted
- Having health problems because you’re tired all the time.
- … For more just take a look at this list of traits empathetic people share.
Yes, there are both pros and cons of being an empath, but it’s always a hard life.
As empaths, we have the psychic ability to feel other people’s emotions.
We empaths are the most caring, most loving people around. And we deserve happiness and success. But instead we feel tired all the time, suffer from chronic fatigue, and get various health problems precisely because we feel so much emotion from other people.
It is time we change this. It’s time we made the most of our empathy. And I am going to show you how. Below I will share my best tips fo empaths.
But first, listen. A lot of people have asked me how to stop being an empath (Tylenol apparently is one solution). But don’t. Never ask how to stop being an empath. Your heightened empathy is a gift. You just need to learn to control it. You need to learn to deal with both the pros and cons of being an empath.
What is an empath (and difference between highly sensitive people and empaths)
Being an empath basically means you are able to experience other people’s emotions like they were your own. It is similar to compassion [READ: Importance of Compassion in Life]
“Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain,” says Dr. Judith Orloff, author of The Empaths Survival Guide.
“But for empaths it goes much further.
“We actually feel others people’s emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have.”
It’s not just other people though. There are different types of empaths:
- Plant empaths
- Weather empaths (this is me)
- Animal empaths (also me)
- Physical empath
- Geomatic empath (these guys actually feel the earth… crazy right?)
- Intuitive empath (also me)
- Emotional empath (definitely me)
Signs of a highly sensitive empath. How many do you have?
- You sense other people’s feelings.
- You have insight into what’s going on in the inner world of people
- You often feel isolated because you exist on an emotional plain most people never reach.
- You share the pain of others.
- You feel tired and emotionally drained when you’re around emotional people
- Overall, it is as though you can psychically feel what other people are feeling.
How many of those do you experiene? If it’s a lot, you are probably a highly sensitive empath. If it’s not so many but you do have heightened emotions, you might be a highly sensitive person (HSP) instead.
There are differences between highly sensitive people and empaths. Let’s take a look so you know which you are.
Difference between highly sensitive people and empaths
There are differences between highly sensitive people and empaths. Highly sensitive people are simpy emotionally reactive. Highly sensitive empaths, however, literally feel other people’s emotions.
The key difference between a highly sensitive person and an empath is that HSPs (highly sensitive people) are sensitive to things pertaining to themselves.
Highly sensitive people:
- take jokes personally.
- are easily offended
- feel mostly for themselves.
In contrast to a highly sensitive person, a highly sensitive empath feels other people’s emotions. This can cause problems such as being tired and getting ill when you’re around emotional people. Put a highly sensitive person and an empath together and the empath will soon become exhausted!
There are pros and cons of being an empath
Yes, there are both pros and cons of being an empath. A lot of people think being an empath is exhausting and disadvantageous. And that can be true. Yes, there definitely are disadvantages.
Being an empath used to kill me, partly because people were attacking me with gaslighting tactics. I found it exhasuting and emotionally draining, and my health suffered as a consequence.
I used to wonder why I’m so sensitive. Why I am a highly empathetic person. I used to wonder why I’m cursed with high levels of empathy. And I used to see my heightened empathy as a problem.
But let me say it again, there are pros and cons of being an empath. You just have to know how to make the most of it.
The Pros And Cons Of Being An Epath
Pros of being an empath:
Newsflash: Your heightened empathy and sensitivity is the result of superior intellect.
Because of your heightened feelings you’re going to end up soaring high, going from one success to another, if you managed to control it. If you manage to avoid the chronic fatigue syndrome and other health problems of being an empath.
Once we learn how to cope with being an empath, we can start to use it to our advantage
Diagree? Consider this:
The importance and value of empathy was scientifically proven in a study conducted by the Center for Creative Leadership . The study investigated 6,731 leaders from 38 countries and concluded that empathy is positively related to job performance. This is especially true for managers. Managers with heightened levels of empathy are viewed as better performers in their job by their bosses. That’s just one of the advantage of being an empath. There are many more, as I’ll share in a moment.
Judith Orlaff On The pros of being an empath
There are lots of benefits of being an empath.
Judith Orlaff, M.D says:
“We empaths have many marvelous traits. We have huge hearts and the instinct to help others in need or who are less fortunate. We’re dreamers and idealists. We’re passionate, deep, and creative, in touch with our emotions, compassionate, and can see the big picture.”
So how do we not just cope with being an empath, but make the most of the pros of being an empath?
Below are 10 ways how to cope with being an empath. They’ll help you make the most of the benefits of being an empath, and reduce the impact of the cons of being an empath.
Cons of being an empath
Highly Sensitive / Empathetic people are extremely valuable individuals, but they are prone to issues.
“When empathy goes into overdrive, people put themselves at risk for mental health problems such as anxiety and depression and physical complications such as heart disease and high blood pressure,” says David Sack M.D.
Many people (especially clairsentient, sensitive, intuitive and lightworker types) can suffer from problems of overly active empathy.
If you’re one of them, you may have noticed that you do everything to make sure other people are happy, and it’s rarely requited.
You care more than other people.
Then you wonder why other people don’t care as much as you do.
This sense of caring-for people but not having people care about you can lead to to a sense of isolation. It can also be very tiring and can cause chronic fatigue syndrome because you’re constantly tired of oaking up other people’s emotions while struggling to deal with your own.
Why being an empath is killing you
Aristotle said: “To perceive is to suffer.”
When you’re a highly sensitive empath you are more perceptive of other people’s emotions, and this can lead to suffering.
Taking up other people’s emotions leads to a lot of emotional weight on your shoulders.
This is why you may sometimes struggle in social situations.
“There is physical evidence within the brain that proves that highly sensitive individuals respond especially strongly to social situations that trigger emotions,” says Dr. Aron, a Research Professor in Psychology at Stony Brook University.
Being an empath means you soak up other people’s emotions. That’s a lot of emotion to run through one person. No wonder being an empath causes chronic fatigue syndrome as well as anxiety and depression!
Your perceptions give you strength. But they also cause you suffering.
In fact, many empaths are so tired of the emotional strain that they have developed a serious health problem: adrenal fatigue.
Empaths And Chronic Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome
When I said being an empath kills you, I wasn’t joking. It quite literally can kill you because of adrenal fatigue syndrome. It’s possibly the biggest con of being an empath.
There is a direct link between empaths and chronic fatigue syndrome.
Being an empath puts you at dangerously high risk of developing adrenal syndrome and insomnia.
Studies show that empaths are at dangerously high risk of experiencing a sudden onset of adrenal fatigue syndrome. If you have ever experienced a sudden and unexpected crash in energy levels, it might have been the result of heightened levels of fatigue, according to the latest research.
When empaths are in contact with emotional individuals, and particularly individuals with lots of negative energy, it can sap away at the empath’s mind, leading to a severe draining of energy.
When empaths spend too much time around other people they can experience emotional exhaustion. This can lead to mental health problems like anxiety and depression.
Negative emotions and painful thoughts can cause a weakening of the immune system leading to devastating consequences.
Here’s the deal with empaths and adrenal fatigue
The Mayoclinic defines adrenal fatigue syndrome as, “a term applied to a collection of nonspecific symptoms, such as body aches, fatigue, nervousness, sleep disturbances and digestive problems.”
The adrenal glands are responsible for creating hormones that are essential to our health. Insufficient production of these hormones occurs in Addison’s disease.
You might have Addisons disease if:
- You have hair loss
- You experience aches and pains
- You have rapidly lost weight
- You are experiencing loss of body hair
- You experience high levels of fatigue
The main cause of adrenal fatigue syndrome is stress, and for the empath this can be caused by too much emotional information entering the mind.
When experiencing any of these conditions, spend time alone and relax.
When we experience these dips in energy we must take proactive steps to get our energy back in healthy ways. Give up on sugar, coffee and smoking. Use some techniques to stop feeling tired instead. Junk food, sugar, and other easy but unhealthy options are not going to help in the long run. Exercise, eat healthy food, practice meditation and relaxation.
3 Tips For Empaths For Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome
Here are 3 of the best tips for empaths for adrenal fatigue syndrome.
1: Best diet for empaths
Being an empath means you need energy. Lot’s of energy. Get it from food.
Include all essential vitamins and minerals and make sure to eat at a healthy time and in a healthy way. Eating mindfully is one good way of improving digestive health.
2: Empaths need more sleep
Another great tip for empaths is to just sleep a lot. Being
Sleep is vital to… everything. And it can have a profound impact on your adrenal glands. Getting to bed early, getting a good night’s sleep, and waking up with a positive attitude will all have a positive impact on your adrenal glands.
3: Get away from negative people
Probably the best tip for empaths is to get away from negtive people.
For empaths, one of the primary causes of stress is negative and overly emotional people. They sap our energy away and leave us emotionally and physically exhausted. We naturally want to help other people. We need to help ourselves too. The key is to seek solitude when we need it.
How to cope with being an empath: Get alone time. Lots of it.
The biggest con of being an empath is fatigue from other people’s emotions. The best way how to cope with being an empath is to get alone time. Tons of it.
Being an empath means we absorb too much emotions, thoughts and feelings keep us up at night. This results in sleep deprivation, which can lead to insomnia. The side effects of insomnia include anxiety, depression, stress, and a weakened immune system.
Not only is it hard to get to sleep at these times, we are also likely to experience light sleeping. We will wake up often. And when we wake we may be troubled by the emotions of the people we’ve been around.
Restlessness is another con of being an empath.
Empaths are hypersensitive to the emotions of others. This can cause information overload, but not in the usual sense. This isn’t information overload from TV or the internet. It’s a spiritual kind of information overload. It’s psychological. It’s being overloaded with too many emotions, thoughts and feelings.
These thoughts and feelings consume the mind. And it isn’t easy to get out of the trap. It’s like a Chinese finger trap. The more you fight the more stuck you get.
What causes someone to be an empath?
You might wonder what causes someone to be an empath.
Upbringing is one of the main causes of being an empath.
“Research has demonstrated that exposure to conflict and violence in the home can shape children’s neurobiological, cognitive, and behavioral responses,” says clinical psychologist Rick Nauert.
The environment we’re brought up in changes our neurological pathways and alters both our recognition of, and response to, the emotions of other people, leading many people to heightened levels of empathy.
When we are born, we have psychological defense mechanisms that prevent us from being too easily influenced by other people’s emotions.
The more emotional pain or abuse we are subjected to as children, the more this defence mechanism breaks down. That’s why people who are born into abusive families often become empaths.
Once this defence mechanism is worn down, we become hypersensitive and hyperaware of other people’s emotions.
This can be a problem.
Most empaths, seeing the emotions of others, will try to solve the problems for the other person.
There are a couple of problems with this. Firstly, the reason why some people hate empaths is because we see the emotional vulnerability of others, which makes them feel naked.
It also makes us a key target for manipulative people. Other people pretend to be upset or hurt because they know that people like you and me will immediately rush to their aid. They use gaslighting techniques to take advantage of us. Why? Because they’re selfish. Why? Because they lack empathy where we have too much of it.
My personal story:
I have always been a highly sensitive empath because I had, for many many years, lived in a turbulent and explosive environment. There was a lot of arguing in my home when I was younger and a lot of emotion. Because of this, I essentially became conditioned to think that any minor issue would lead to a full blown argument and a lot of emotional suffering. That mindset made me incredibly sensitive to any negative emotions. I learned to immediately recognise other people’s emotions. It is a self defense mechanism.
If you too are a highly sensitive empath, then there are a few important factors to be aware of.
There are some problems of empaths that you need to know.
The truth is that while highly sensitive empaths are vitally important people we are also prone to some issues.
The key is learning how to make the most of both the pros and cons of being an empath.
10 Ways How To Cope With Being An Empath
“Empathy is the most precious human quality”— The Dalai Lama
Being an empath is a challenge. But like my man Bruce Lee said:
“Pray not for an easy life, but for the strength to endure a challenging one.”
Being an empath, you already know what it feels like to have too much emotion. That’s the biggest con of being an empath. You know how difficult it can be to focus on your own needs and to not get overly involved in the emotions and needs of others. You know what it feels like to see a person cry and to immediately feel the pain in them.
Many empaths struggle.
Statistics from Google show that thousands of people every month search for “Empath survival tips” or “How to cope with being an empath.”
You’re got to be kidding me.
Sure, there re cons of being an empath, but there are pros of being an empath too. It’s all about personal mastery. Making the most of who you are.
The key to this is to make the most of the pros of being an empath.
How To Cope With Being An Empath–10 Ways
- A good addition to this list is to generally increase emotional intelligene, such as by using meditation to control emotions.
1: How empaths can stop feeling drained
Let’s deal with one of the biggest cons of being an empath: energy drainers.
Being an empath means you probably want to help everyone, right? The idea of distancing ourselves from negative people (whom I call “drainers”) makes us feel a little bit sick in the gut, doesn’t it? Feels selfish. Feels wrong.
Well guess what?
Your emotional needs matter every bit as much as everyone else’s!
You value other people’s emotions. You hate it when other people are hurting. But you should hate it even more when you yourself are hurt.
Drainers are the main reason why empaths suffer. They are one of the main reasons for the link between empaths and fatigue!
We need to change that.
Tell one negative person in your life that you are distancing yourself from them. Do this right now. After all, momma always said to “strike while the iron is hot”. I’m not joking when I tell you to do this right now. Grow a set. Pick up your phone. Message one emotional drainer. Tell them why you are distancing yourself.
2: Giving the epath energy!
The con of being an empath: you absorb other people’s emotions.
The benefit of being an empath: you absorb other people’s emotions.
Spend time with positive people and you will absorb their positive energy. This is whole link between empaths and energy. Drainers drain you. Energisers energise you. It really is that simple.
Appreciate all the positive people in your life. Express gratitude for them. Spend more time with them.
When you want to spend time with drainers, find situations in which they give out positive energy. Your drainer will exhibit positive energy in certain ways. Make use of that.
3: Dont let being an empath kill you: Create an energy shield
Your painful past wore down your mind’s defences. Good news: you can build them back up again.
The best way to rebuild your mind is by using your imagination.
One potent technique is to imagine an energy shield that prevents negative energy from entering your mind.
Around negative people? Imagine an energy shield surrounding you, preventing their negative energy from entering your mind.
4: Be mindful of your thoughts
Mindfulness is a wonderful gift for empaths. With the right mindfulness techniques, we can boost the mind and we can learn to manage both positive and negative energy.
Mindfulness makes you more aware of your thoughts and feelings. And once you are aware you will have control. So practice being mindful.
The negative energy that has built up like a well in your soul can only be emptied with the gift of forgiveness.
As empaths, we are more likely to suffer than most people. We experience heightened emotions. This can cause scars. And scars take time to heal.
The key to healing emotional scars is forgiveness.
Who can you forgive today? What negative energy can you release from your spirit right now?
6: To stop being emotionally drained…
All the pros and cons of being an empath basically revolve around emotions.
As empaths, we aren’t just more aware of other people’s emotions, we are more aware of our own emotions too. And we sometimes cling to those emotions like corral on rock.
We must let go of our emotions.
The key is consciousness.
By being consciously aware of our emotions, and then imagining those emotions flowing out of our souls, we can cleanse our spirits of build-up emotions.
Practice letting go or old emotions. And embrace the new.
7: Meditation for empaths
Inner peace is what most empaths crave. Being an empath means we’ve been through emotional pain. You likely know full well what it is to suffer. And the idea of inner peace seems like a distant dream.
Dreams are possible futures waiting to happen.
We can make inner peace happen for us.
The key is meditation. There are lots of benefits of meditation for empaths. It gives you an opportunity to relax and to step away from all those emotions. It restores your energy. And it is also a quiet peaceful time when you are by yourself and not being emotionally drained by other people.
8: Face the fear and say “No” anyway
We empaths are the nicest people around (and the most valuable). We live to help other people.
Reality check: we need to know when to say “No”.
As empaths, we know what it’s like to be taken for a ride. I bet someone has taken advantage of your empathy at some point, right? And they probably didn’t even say sorry.
We need to change that.
Make it a habit to say no to any unreasonable request.
9: Bathe your spirit in nature
My favorite way how to cope with being an empath is to get out in nature.
Nature is the greatest gift.
As an empath, when you are out in nature you probably feel a tremendous sense of relief. You feel relaxed and tranquil. You can feel positive energy flowing from the world into your own spirit.
Empaths need to spend more time in nature. It is the best way to release pent-up emotions and to restore positive energy.
10: Change your perspective
Most things in life come down to perspective. Empathy is another one of those things.
Change your perspective on emotion and you will change your life as an empath.
See the good in pain.
See the many life lessons that people gain through suffering.
Then, you will be less urgent to stop pain when you see it.
Pain is often the pathway to enlightenment. Do not be too sad for people when they are down. It might be end up being the most important lesson they ever learn.
Reflect on your life. Is there anywhere you need a change of perspective?
11. Avoid empath health issues
It is vital that you learn to avoid all those empath health issues. In particularly, you need to take steps to prevent adrenal fatigue syndrome
Being an empath will kill you unless you monitor stress levels and emotional levels.
We must have a point at which we say “enough”, a point at which we stop what we are doing and prioritise our health. When we start to feel overwhelmed, we must find solitude and unwind. This is being compassionate for the mind and body.
Yes, there are lots of pros and cons of being an empath. But you can cope. It doesn’t have to kill you!
Being an empath is a gift. We feel more than other people feel. Life is about feelings, about emotions, about experience. We experience more, feel more, and understand more. That’s why, even though life is often a struggle for empaths, it is also a blessing. Yes it’s hard. But it is also the deepest, most rewarding life.
Don’t just survive as an empath. Own it.