10 Ways Positive People Make Themselves Happy

how can I make myself happy?

While travelling from my home in Oxford England to Toronto Canada I had the pleasure of talking to a very interesting Indian girl. I asked her what she loved the most about her home country.

She smiled brightly and said, “Well, I do not have a lot of money, but my quality of life is exceptional. I work as a meditation teacher. It’s a job I love. That makes me happy every day.”

IAfter chatting with my new friend, my mind was full of ideas about happy people and their happy habits.

I decided to do a lot of research to try and discover precisely what happy people do differently. Some of the results were truly surprising.

I came across hundreds of happy habits during my research (some a little obscure, including a man who spent one day a month living with his eyes closed, which he said heightened his senses).

My research led me to create this list of the top ten ways to make yourself happy.


So, thanks for asking “How can I make myself happy”. Here are the top 10 answers, which I’ve decided to write from the perspective of things happy people do differently. 

1: They put themselves first. 

I actually went up to a lot of happy looking people and asked “How can I make myself happy?” The most popular answer was to put yourself first.

Genuinely happy people understand that it isn’t selfish to put yourself first. Happy people understand that in order to be at their maximum they need time to themselves, and they often need to put their needs ahead of everyone else’s.

Thing is, for a lot of people it is not easy to put yourself first. Lot’s of us feel guilty when we do that We think we’re selfish. And if that sounds like you, then I’ve got new for you. Firstly, you deserve to be happy (read that). And secondly, you need to know how to put yourself first (so, er, read that too).

2: They challenge a fear as it happens

Happy people understand that fear is the chief enemy of happiness. In my research I met many happy people who intentionally found and overcame their fears. They included a forty year old woman who had just been to the dentists, whom she dreads, and a rock climber who constantly sought out new challenges.

So how do you handle fear? Well. You face fear the warrior way. And then you learn to live without fear completely.

3: They have a reason for living

Every single happy person that I met could tell me in one sentence what their main reason for living is. Their reasons were wide ranging. Some lived to write novels, some lived for family, some wanted to make millions, and others lived simply to make other people happy.

But what is your reason for living?

Let me show you how I found purpose in life. Or, if you already know your purpose, let me hear about it Leave a comment below.

4: They accept that life is constant change

The happiest people are at peace with the fact that the world is constantly changing. They understand that their current reality is temporary. They know that good times end, bad times end, people move on, career take new paths. They understand and they embrace it all.


5: They’re unapologetic about their desires

When I asked people “What can I do to make myself happy” a lot of them said they never apologize for their desires.

The happiest people in the world know what they want and they’re not about to apologize for it. Whether they want money, to travel the world, to or to be the boss of their company, they accept and embrace their desires. They live life to the beat of their own drum.


6: Money is no problem

Happy people who have money share it. Happy people who don’t have money don’t worry about it. The former love giving and sharing their luxuries. The latter have faith that everything will be alright in the end. And they all know that some thing are worth a lot more than money.

Do you have a negative relationship with money? If so, learn to change the way you think about money here.

7: They don’t enter the popularity contest

Happy people know who they are and they accept who they are 100%.  Because they accept themselves completely they don’t feel a need to be accepted or liked by others. If you like them, great, but if you don’t they’re not about to get bent out of shape over it.


8: Rejection is protection

A lot of people fear rejection, whether that’s rejection from a job interview or rejection from a member of the opposite sex. Happy people don’t worry about it. Happy people know that the reason they’re rejected is because something better is coming along.


9: We’re all equal

Happy people believe that all people are equal. They know that money, looks, and all that jazz don’t really reflect how good or bad a person is. They treat all people equally, with the utmost respect.


10: We are one

Happy people know that all people are one. They feel the pain and sorrow of other people, but they also feel the happiness and joy of other people. Because they feel connected to everyone around them, they never feel lonely. They see a stranger as a companion, a colleague as a friend.

Oneness is the absolute number one way to be happy. But just how exactly do you become one with the universe? To help you out, I’ve written a guide to achieving oneness. I challenge you to take a look. It will be a real eye opener.

Happy people know how to live life happily. I’m going to make the most of these 10 tips I’ve learnt from happy people.


okay, there we are, my answer to “how can I make myself happy?” If you have a question you would like to ask please write in.

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how can I make myself happy?

10 Ways Positive People Make Themselves Happy

How to be Happy Habit 10: Just Have a Pint with a Friend:

have-a-pintmore-buttonHappiness doesn’t have to be about some spiritual quest or some divine truth. Happiness, for a great many people, is simply chilling out with friends and having a pint. And honestly, what the heck is wrong with that? Friends rock, we think. Let’s face it, when you’re down it’s your friends who are there. When you’re self pitying it’s your friends who tell you to shut the hell up and get over it. Friends are awesome. Obviously, the pint bit is optional, but heck, who doesn’t love a good pint?

Obviously, you don’t have to have a pint; just socialise, get out and talk to people. Loneliness is one of the leading causes of depression. To discover more click the LEARN MORE button.

how-to-be-happy-2Happy Habit 9: Meditate
If chilling out with friends isn’t helping you to find happiness, then maybe you need to relax by yourself. The absolute best way of relaxing while alone is by meditating. When you meditate you focus and calm our mind, creating serenity and a deep sense of inner peace. You don’t have to “Om,” either—though you can if you want to; don’t let us stop you. The most basic form of meditation is simply sitting there with your eyes closed and focussing your mind on your breathing; easy as pie.
Good food can pick you up when you’re down. Personally, for the total yum-sensation I recommend cooking yourself. Or you can have it the easy way and go out. Either way, however, if you want to find happiness through food, make sure you a) pick something that is both flavourful (note that flavourful does not necessarily mean fattening) and colourful (so as to stimulate your eyes and mind).

how-to-make-yorself-happyHappy Habit 7: Exercise

more-buttonAll forms of exercise will release endorphins, the “Happy chemical,” and therefore will help to get you feeling good about life. Perhaps the best exercise to do when feeling down, however, is exercise that gets you out in the open. Try walking, running, cycling or, if you’re lucky enough to live near water, try swimming. Whichever exercise you do, get out in the open and start sweating. You’ll feel good in no time!
Singing is excellent exercise for mind and body. When you sing you encourage your body to take in more oxygen, which is good for both your body and your brain. The increased oxygen also helps your muscles to relax and release any tension. Singing also focuses your mind on pleasant sounds which, similar to meditating, calms and centres the mind. This helps to eliminate stress and promote happiness. That must be why choral singing is the most popular of all arts practices in the United States.

Mindfulness is the practice of focussing on the present moment, or “present moment mindedness.” Many people suffer from a lack of mindfulness; they are not focussed on the moment but instead are focussed on their thoughts. Focussing on your thoughts creates stress and mental tension. Conversely, when we focus on external reality, we let go of our thoughts, let go of stress and create relaxation and happiness.

Self acceptance is a very important trait. As Buddha said, “No one deserve your love and compassion more than you yourself do.” It’s worth reading that line a few times, for it is very true. If we are to be happy with ourselves, we must love ourselves. Of course, I mean love not in the narcissistic way but in the supportive, nurturing way. We must understand and accept our human weaknesses, just as we understand and accept our human strengths.

Happy Habit 3: Compassion for Others

When we are angry, whether towards other people or ourselves, the adrenal glands release stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, the brain moves blood from the gut towards the muscles as we enter “flight or fight mode,” heart rate increases along with blood pressure and respiration, and body temperate rises. Calmness acts oppositely, promoting healthy heart rate, healthy blood pressure and healthy respiration, and helping control the release of cortisol and adrenaline. By practicing compassion and love, we thus help promote and maintain health.

breathing is good living. When we breathe deeply we give our body and mind a chance to relax, helping to release both physical and metal stress and to promote relaxation and happiness. There are many deep breathing exercises that are wonderful at promoting happiness. One of the best is the Buddhist technique “Nine Round Breathing.” In this technique, one nostril is covered for nine inhalations and exhalations. This nostril is then opened and the opposite nostril closed for the next nine inhalations and exhalations, before beginning again and repeating the process.

The biggest mistake we make in this day and age is not knowing when to call enough enough. Whether we’re workaholics who just can’t help but stay up late at night; or whether we simply watch TV or play games too much; most of us have at least one thing that we need to limit. We need to know when enough is enough. We need to be willing to put the brakes on whatever it is, to do something different, to go out or, if we already go out too much, to stay in. We need to be our own best friend.

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