Everybody wants to know how to be mentally strong and happy all day long.
It’s easy, sometimes. Sometimes, life feels like a breeze.
But just when you start smiling some bullcrap comes along and tears your day to pieces.
Well, not today.
Because today I am going to share 18 tips to show you how to be mentally strong and happy all day long.
- I will show you how to wake up positive and happy
- How to stay happy through the day
- How to train your brain
- How to maintain your strength no matter what.
Try the tips below. And let me know if they help you to keep that smile on your face. And when you think you’re so mentally strong you couldn’t possibly get any stronger it’s probably time for you to achieve self-actualization.
How To Be Mentally Strong And Happy, So You’re Smiling The Whole Day
1: Use novelty to strengthen the brain
Science has proven that novelty (basically doing new things) is very important for training your brain.
Why? Well, here’s the science:
Your mind is the result of neurons firing information through your brain at hundreds of miles per hour.
But when you keep doing the same thing time and time again, you only exercise certain parts of your mind and the rest atrophies.
When you learn new things, you activate regions of your brain that might have been idle for a long time.
Jason Shen on LifeHacker.com says, “When we learn a new skill… we’re changing how our brain is wired on a deep level. Science has shown that the brain is incredibly plastic… even older adults can see real transformations in their neurocircuitry.”
And it doesn’t matter what you learn. It just matters that you learn something new.
- Learn a new hobby
- Learn to cook for yourself
- Try learning a new language.
- Try a different kind of exercise.
- Heck, just drive a different route to work.
- Enjoy different types of movies / games / books.
- Read the books and quotes of people you don’t normally read.
- Speak to new and different people.
According to Harvard.edu:
“Challenging your brain with exercise is believed to activate processes that help maintain individual brain cells and stimulate communication among them. Many people have jobs that keep them mentally active, but pursuing a hobby, learning a new skill, or volunteering for a project at work that involves a skill you don’t usually use can function the same way.”
There are lots of brain training websites that take advantage of this. Lumosity, for instance, gives you all types of games to play to train your brain.
But you don’t need to specifically play Lumosity games to make yourself mentally strong and happy.
Lots of video games will do the very same thing.
I’m a total nerd, and I play fighting games a lot (I even commentate at large tournaments). Those games require excellent reactions and a lot of strategy. They really make you think! And you’d better believe they exercise your brain and your mind.
Try picking a new game or a new type of mental exercise. You’ll find active regions of your brain that have been idle. This is one of the best ways how to be mentally strong and healthy.
Another great way to gain some novelty is with a good book.
As Sia Mohajer says on FinerMinds.com,
“Fill your mind with the thoughts of great thinkers. People who inspire you. They also started much like you; minding each thought. You will become unstoppable.”
This is the best way how to be mentally strong and happy. Seriously. The number one tip for mental strength is seeking out novelty.
2. Connect with your senses for a healthier mind
One of the best ways to live in the moment is to get in touch with your senses.
Sensory information flows into your brain every second of every day. But if you’re distracted by thoughts, you’ll ignore that sensory information, starving your mind of the nutrients it needs to grow stronger.
They’re a big deal.
Deane Alban on BeBrainFit says:
“The key to exercising your brain is engaging all of your senses — sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell — in non-routine ways.…Travel, camping, and gardening are high on his list of activities that utilize all your senses in new ways.”
So, if you want to know how to be mentally strong and happy, pay more attention to your senses.
3. Refuse to lose mental strength as you age
A lot of people want to know how to be mentally strong and happy as they age.
Smart people know how to defy the ageing process.
Age is nothing.
I’ve got a few grey bits developing among my black hair, and at the age of thirty-four I will sometimes joke that I’m senile, like when I go to bed with the door unlocked.
But science has proven that middle-aged people do not have memory problems and that for the most part, short-term memory is better in 40+ year-olds than in teens.
But here’s the crux. Believing that you have a weak mind and a weak memory will actually make you have a weak mind and weak memory.
The belief is self-fulfilling. And it will have a direct effect on your life. Science has proven that our beliefs create our perception of reality. This is mostly because your beliefs have a significant impact on your subconscious mind.
Scientists scratch their heads over this one. They’re not sure why believing you have a lousy memory actually gives you a weak memory. Their best guess is that people who think they’re too old to have a memory are less likely to practice mental exercises, and therefore will experience cognitive decline.
But actually, the truth is that your beliefs shape you.
If you believe you’re healthy, you probably will be. If you think you have a good memory, you will have. If you think your mind is weak, it will be.
The average brain is believed to generate around 50,000 thoughts per day. 70% of them are negative. That’s one heck of a burden to carry around with you every day. Imagine if you actually wrote out those 35,000 negative thoughts and read them back to back. That’s what goes through the average person’s mind every day.
Snap out of your negative beliefs.
Don’t underestimate your mind.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. Believe in it. Know your mind is a powerhouse. This is one of the key ways to be mentally strong.
4. To make your soul happy, learn to dance
Dancing is one of the best exercises for mental health.
There are many health benefits of dancing.
Dancing increases serotonin levels—the brain’s natural happy drug [Harvard]. That’s why, even if you’re one of those people who “Doesn’t like dancing” if you go and dance you will probably be happy within 2 minutes.
Jacob Devaney on UpLiftConnect.com says”
“Dancing is a form of exercise, which is known to release endorphins that reduce pain. Dancing also causes our brains to secrete the “bonding” hormone, oxytocin (also known as the “happy” or “love” neurohormone). High energy dance that includes synchronized movements with others will increase positive results.”
And while you’re happy and shaking yo groove thang, you will also be making yourself smarter.
This is definitely the most fun way how to be mentally strong and happy.
5. For emotional power, overcome fear
Fears are like roadblocks in your mind. Imagine driving down a highway. Fifty miles down the road is a place called Success Boulevard.
But before you get to Success Boulevard, you have to pass Humble Avenue and Broke-Ass Mountain.
You’re scared of Humble Avenue, and that Broke-Ass Mountain place gives you the creeps. So you pull up. You stop driving because you’re too afraid to get to Success Boulevard.
That’s three areas that you’ve stopped yourself going. That’s three parts of your mind that you’re allowing to dwindle and die just because you don’t like two of them.
That’s not your mind working at optimum performance.
Your best bet—and the only way to get to Success Boulevard—is to keep on driving through Humble Avenue and Broke-Ass Mountain because the only way how to be mentally strong and happy is to face fear and overcome it.
Don’t let your fear stop you. Be willing to look at the darker parts of your mind. Once you look your fear in the face, you’ll see the light there anyway.
Fear? Ain’t nobody got time for that.
This is the hardest but quickest way how to be mentally strong and happy. Face your fears every day.
5. Fight laziness to slow mental atrophy
One of the leading causes of mental weakness is laziness. So if you’re asking how to be mentally strong and happy: stop being lazy.
A healthy mind requires exercise and ef
fort, and of course, laziness stops all that.
I say laziness; I actually mean mental health problems that cause people to act in lazy ways. Because science has proven that laziness is just a myth, and most lazy people are suffering from symptoms of a mental health disorder.
Either way, it is essential to combat “laziness” to exercise enough to be mentally strong and healthy.
6. For emotional fortitude, develop emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is our ability to recognize our emotions and the emotions of other people.
To do this, we need:
- emotional awareness
- ability to use emotions positively
- emotional regulation
When we have high emotional intelligence, we are less likely to suffer from a mental health problem like stress, and we are more likely to be involved in things like social events, which are beneficial to our overall mental health.
7: Use mental hygiene for a good mindset
Mental hygiene refers to how clean we keep our minds. And this is one of the key ways to have a happy mind. [here’s my guide to improving your mental hygiene]
Our mental hygiene is the result of
- What we put in our minds
- And the effort we take to clean our minds
For instance, we can improve mental hygiene by removing negative influences (negative people, sources of bad news, etc.). And we can also improve our mental hygiene by meditating and relaxing.
The overall hygiene of the mind has a significant effect on how mentally strong we are.
By taking steps to reduce negatives, increase positives, and clean the mind, we can improve our mental strength.
8: Stop letting overthinking get you down
It’s true that if we were not able to think, humanity would not have survived. But it is also true that the average person experiences more thoughts than the mind can handle.
- 80% of thoughts are negative
- 98% of thoughts are the repetition of what we thought before
- One of the leading causes of depression is repetitive negative thoughts
- 750 thoughts per day are intrusive
- 13% of thoughts are out of character and shocking
- 18% of thoughts are uncomfortable or painful
Put simply; we need to stop overthinking. This is one of the most important ways to be a mentally strong person.
9. Reprioritize your focus
One of the main traits of positive people is that they have a good attitude towards money.
I used to believe that experiential living was what truly mattered. I was half right.
Science has proven that we need to balance money and “stuff” with experience. We need all three to feel genuinely great.
Take a look at this article about Finding happiness with money, possessions, and experience.
10. Stop social pressure letting social pressure weaken your mind
Fact: we are destroying each other by placing too much pressure on one another.
Social pressure is a significant cause of mental health problems and especially in teenagers. But it’s equally bad at work.
The constant stress and pressure we put on one another can have a seriously detrimental effect on mental health. It can rob us of our mental strength and leave us broken.
That’s why we need to take steps to overcome social pressure. Oh, and by the way, if you’re wondering how to be mentally strong and happy as a teen, this tip is especially important.
11. Develop Mental Fortitude
Mental fortitude is personal resilience and toughness that is vital to success in life and vital to the health of the mind.
One of the main ways we lose mental strength is through external pressure. Your husband / wife / boss / friends put pressure on you. You are told to do things you don’t want to do. You give in to other people’s demands. And it all affects the way you feel about yourself and your inner strength.
When we have mental fortitude, we don’t bow down to people. We stick to our guns. We live with integrity. We are true to ourselves. And this makes us feel good about ourselves.
Mental fortitude helps us to keep our inner strength. It is a psychic shield around us.
12. Start building your courage
Psychologically speaking, courage is the ability to face adversity in life, the strength to face fear and to overcome challenges.
Courage is vital for both building mental strength and keeping it.
When we act in courageous ways, we diminish the effect of fear, and we build self-confidence. Suddenly we feel stronger than before.
But courage also helps us overcome stress.
Problems cause us to feel stressed. To stop the stress, we need to stop the problem. And to stop the problem we have to face it, which requires courage. So when we are courageous, we overcome stress quickly, and this stops stress from affecting our mental health.
Your mind is incredible. It’s a powerhouse that is capable of achieving the unimaginable. These tips will make you mentally strong and happy every day.
Next, why not read my article on exploring your own mind.
If I missed anything, let me know.
And here’s an infographic on how to be mentally strong and happy. Click for the full-size version.