12 Ways How To Be A Mentally Strong Person [TUTORIAL]

how to be mentally strong and happy

If you want to know how to be a mentally strong person, you must awaken the power of your mind.

In my subconscious mind tutorial I revealed how powerful the mind truly is.

The mind is the product of millions of neurons in your brain firing information at hundreds of miles per hour, a phenomenal process that spreads information so quickly it makes the internet look sluggish.

That’s why we need the success mindset. And it’s why we need to be proactive to keep up our mental strength (because oh boy is it easy lose).

Like every other part of the body, the mind requires diligence and exercise.

There are ways to be fit physically. And there are ways to be a mentally strong person.



What does genuine mental strength feel like?

Genuine mental strength feels like your mind is your best friend, like you can easily solve problems, and emotionally speaking, it feels like you have exceptional self worth.

In 2007 I was at my peak. I was training for the London marathon while touring England on stage while training to become a meditation teacher.

My days consisted of getting up at 5am to do yoga, followed by an hour’s meditation, then hitting a theatre once or twice a day to perform shows, before heading out for twenty mile runs. And it all felt so easy.

My mind was in free-flow state, and everything was wonderful.

I was a mentally strong person.

Then my life fell to pieces.

I lost all sense of self-worth.

I had to fight to gain my confidence with these confidence building tips.

Thanks to this journey through hell I learned the secrets to becoming a mentally strong person and staying that way

I’ve backed up my own experience with scientific research to create this guide. 

So how do you become a mentally strong person. And how do you keep your mental strength up? 


How To Be Mentally Strong And Happy Every Day 

1: To be mentally strong we need novelty

Novelty itself is the best way to train your brain.

Your mind is the result of neurons firing information through your brain at hundreds of miles per hour.

But when you keep doing the same thing time and time again you only exercise certain parts of your mind and the rest atrophies.

When you learn new things you activate regions of your brain that might have been idle for a long time.

Jason Shen on LifeHacker.com says, “When we learn a new skill… we’re changing how our brain is wired on a deep level. Science has shown that the brain is incredibly plastic… even older adults can see real transformations in their neurocircuitry.”

And it really doesn’t matter what you learn. It just matters that you learn something new.

  • Learn a new hobby
  • Learn to cook for yourself
  • Try learning a new language.
  • Try a different kind of exercise.
  • Heck, just drive a different route to work.
  • Enjoy different types of movies / games / books.
  • Read the books and quotes of people you dont normally read.
  • Speak to new and different people.

According to Harvard.edu:

 “Challenging your brain with exercise is believed to activate processes that help maintain individual brain cells and stimulate communication among them. Many people have jobs that keep them mentally active, but pursuing a hobby, learning a new skill, or volunteering for a project at work that involves a skill you don’t usually use can function the same way.”

There are lots of brain training websites that takes advantage of this. Lumosity, for instance, gives you all types of games to play to train your brain.

But you don’t need to specifically play Lumosity games to make yourself mentally strong and happy.

Lots of video games will do the very same thing.

I’m a total nerd, and I play fighting games a lot (I even commentate at large tournaments). Those games require excellent reactions and a lot of strategy. They really make you think! And you’d better believe they exercise your brain and your mind.

Try picking a new game or a new type of mental exercise. You’ll active regions of your brain that have been idle. This is one of the best ways how to be mentally strong and healthy.

Another great way to gain some novelty is with  a good book.

As Sia Mohajer says on FinerMinds.com,

“Fill your mind with the thoughts of great thinkers. People who inspire you. They also started much like you; minding each thought. You will become unstoppable.”



2. Make yourself mentally strong by using your senses 

One of the best ways to live in the moment is to get in touch with your senses.

Sensory information flows into your brain every second of every day. But if you’re distracted by thoughts you’ll ignore that sensory information, starving your mind of the nutrients it needs to grow stronger.






They’re a big deal.

Deane Alban on BeBrainFit says:

“The key to exercising your brain is engaging all of your senses — sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell — in non-routine ways.…Travel, camping, and gardening are high on his list of activities that utilize all your senses in new ways.”




3. Forget your age. You’re still a genius

Smart people know how to defy the aging process.

Age is nothing.

I’ve got a few grey bits developing among my black hair, and at the age of thirty-four I will sometimes joke that I’m senile, like when I go to bed with the door unlocked.

But science has proven that middle-aged people do not have memory problems, and that for the most part short-term memory is actually better in 40+ year-olds than in teens.

But here’s the crux. Believing that you have a weak mind and a weak memory will actually make you have a weak mind and weak memory.

The belief is self-fulfilling.

Scientists scratch their heads over this one. They’re not certain why believing you have a bad memory actually gives you a weak memory. Their best guess is that people who think they’re too old to have a memory are less likely to practice mental exercises, and therefore will experience cognitive decline.

Seems logical.

But actually, the truth is that your beliefs shape you.

If you believe you’re healthy you probably will be. If you believe you have a good memory, you will have. If you believe your mind is weak it will be.

The average brain is believed to generate around 50,000 thoughts per day. 70% of them are negative. That’s one heck of a burden to carry around with you every day. Imagine if you actually wrote out those 35,000 negative thoughts and read them back to back. That’s what goes through the average person’s mind every day.

Snap out of your negative beliefs.

Don’t underestimate your own mind.

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. Believe in it. Know your mind is a powerhouse.


4.  Dance

Dancing is one of the best exercises for mental health.

There are many health benefits of dancing.

Dancing increases serotonin levels—the brain’s natural happy drug [Harvard] . That’s why, even if you’re one of those people who “Doesn’t like dancing”, if you actually go and dance you will probably be happy within 2 minutes.

Jacob Devaney on UpLiftConnect.com says”

“Dancing is a form of exercise, which is known to release endorphins that reduce pain. Dancing also causes our brains to secrete the “bonding” hormone, oxytocin (also known as the “happy” or “love” neurohormone). High energy dance that includes synchronized movements with others will increase positive results.”

And while you’re happy and shaking yo groove thang you will also be making yourself smarter.



5. Smash through a fear today

My  guide to overcoming fear shows smart strategies to rid yourself of your inner terror.

Fears are like road blocks in your mind. Imagine driving down a highway. 50 miles down the road is a place called Success Boulevard.

But before you get to Success Boulevard you have to pass Humble Avenue and Broke Ass Mountain.

You’re scared of Humble Avenue, and that Broke Ass Mountain place gives you the creeps. So you pull up. You stop driving. Because you’re too afraid to get to Success Boulevard.

That’s three areas that you’ve stopped yourself going. That’s three parts of your mind that you’re allowing to dwindle and die just because you don’t like two of them.

That’s not your mind working at optimum performance.

Your best bet—and the only way to get to Success Boulevard—is to keep on driving through Humble Avenue and Broke Ass Mountain. Because the only way how to be mentally strong and happy is to face fear and overcome it.

Don’t let your fear stop you. Be willing to look at the darker parts of your mind. Once you actually look your fear in the face you’ll see light there anyway.

Fear? Aint nobody got time for that.


5. Combat Laziness

One of the main causes of mental weakness is laziness.

A healthy mind requires exercise and ef

fort, and of course, laziness stops all that.

I say laziness, I actually mean mental health problems that cause people to act in lazy ways. Because science has proven that laziness is just a myth, and most lazy people are actually suffering from symptoms of a mental health disorder [PsycologyToday].

Either way, it is important to combat “laziness” in order to exercise enough to be mentally strong and healthy.

Thankfully, there are lots of things we can do to stop laziness.



6. Work on emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is our ability to recognize our emotions and the emotions of other people.

To do this we need:

  • emotional awareness
  • ability to use emotions positively
  • emotional regulation

When we have high emotional intelligence we are less likely to suffer from mental health problem like stress, and we are more likely to be involved in things like social events, which are beneficial to our overall mental health.


7: Improve your mental hygiene

Mental hygiene refers to how clean we keep our minds.

Our mental hygiene is the result of

  • What we put in our minds
  • And the effort we take to clean our minds

For instance, we can improve mental hygiene by removing negative influences (negative people, sources of bad news etc.). And we can also improve our mental hygiene by meditating and relaxing.

The overall hygiene of the mind has a huge effect on how mentally strong we are.

By taking steps to reduce negatives, increase positives, and clean the mind, we can improve our mental strength.


8: Stop Thinking Too Much

It’s true that if we were not able to think, mankind would not have survived. But it is also true that the average person experiences more thoughts than the mind can handle.

and consider:

  • 80% of thoughts are negative
  • 98% of thoughts are the repetition of what we thought before
  • One of the main causes of depression is repetitive negative thoughts
  • 750 thoughts per day are intrusive
  • 13% of thoughts are out of character and shocking
  • 18% of thoughts are uncomfortable or painful;

Put simply, we need to stop thinking too much.


9. Find the right balance between money, possessions, and experience

One of the main traits of positive people is that they have a good attitude towards money.

I personally used to believe that experiential living was what truly mattered. I was half right.

Science has proven that we need to balance money and “stuff” with experience. We need all three to feel truly great.

Take a look at this article about Finding happiness with money, possessions, and experience.



10. Overcome social pressure

Fact: we are destroying each other by placing too much pressure on one another.

Social pressure is a major cause of mental health problems and especially in teenagers [SageDay]. But it’s equally bad at work.

The constant stress and pressure we put on one another can have a seriously detrimental effect on mental health. It can rob us of our mental strength and leave us broken.

That’s why we need to take steps to overcome social pressure


11. Develop Mental Fortitude

Mental fortitude is personal resilience and toughness that is vital to success in life and vital to the health of the mind.

One of the main ways we lose mental strength is through external pressure. Your husband / wife / boss / friends put pressure on you. You are told to do things you don’t want to do. You give in to other people’s demands. And it all effects the way you feel about yourself and your inner strength.

When we have mental fortitude we don’t bow down to people. We stick to our guns. We live with integrity. We are true to ourselves. And this makes us feel good about ourselves.

Mental fortitude helps us to keep our inner strength. It is a psychic shield around us.

12. Courage

Psychologically speaking, courage is the ability to face adversity in life, the strength to face fear and to overcome challenges.

Courage is important for both building mental strength and keeping it.

When we act in courageous ways we diminish the effect of fear and we build self confidence. Suddenly we feel stronger than before.

But courage also helps us overcome stress.

Problems cause us to feel stressed. To stop the stress we need to stop the problem. And to stop the problem we have to face it, which requires courage. So when we are courageous, we overcome stress quickly, and this stop stress from effecting our mental health.


Your mind is amazing. It’s a powerhouse that is capable of achieving the unimaginable. These tips will make you mentally strong and happy every day.

Next why not read my ultimate guide to happiness.

If I missed anything let me know.  

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About Paul Martin Harrison 495 Articles
Paul Harrison is a meditation teacher, author and journalist based in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Paul has helped thousands of people to discover their true potential. Don’t miss Paul’s inspirational and enlightening book Journey To The Buddha Within You.