We all have negative energy and negative emotions each and every day. Question is how to use negative energy and emotions. Well. This is how…
Negative emotions are a natural and healthy part of everyday life. We all feel those negative feelings. Anger, guilt, resentment, fear, stress, anxiety…
The trick is to have a strategy for handling those negative emotions. The trick is to know how to use negative energy.
Over the centuries many philosophers have studied this question. And practices such as Aikido have taught people to master their negative energy.
Some people try to force themselves into feeling better.
That’s not smart.
Psychologists have told us for years that every emotion has a reason. When you ignore your emotions you stop yourself from learning the hidden reason for those emotions.
Wisdom holds that if you want to conquer your emotions, you must understand them
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
― Lao Tzu quote
So let’s get to it. Here’s how to use negative energy and negative emotions. . .
To understand your emotions, you have to accept them. And to accept negative emotions you must relax.
Step 1 is to allow yourself to relax while experiencing that negative emotion
When you experience a negative emotion, breathe deep.
This one deep breath is an opportunity to calm your mind. Tell yourself “This negative emotion is natural. When I understand it, I will conquer it”.
Take a second deep breath. Let your body relax. Inhale deeply. Let that energy flow freely into your body. Then breathe out softly and smoothly. Relax.
Thich Nhat Hanh said “Conscious breathing is my anchor”.
Anchor your mind on the breath. Your mind will expand and release. Continue to breathe and to relax.
Step 2 is to accept the negative, and understand that it is a healthy part of your natural being
Negative emotions are natural. As the rains that fall to nourish the land, your negative emotions must be released to nourish your mind and soul.
When you try to force negativity out, you actually let negativity deeper in. It’s a paradox.
To be a healthy whole, you must accept the whole. You cannot only accept the parts of you that you like. That forces your mind to split in two. Only by accepting the fullness of your existence can you become a healthy, unified whole.
Negativity will never vanish. It is always there. And that’s good. Because your negative emotions offer insight into your own mind.
The trick is to receive the message that your negativity is sending.
Step 3: Your mind is now relaxed and calm. Time to wake up to the fullness of existence.
You have taken three deep breaths. You’ve meditate on those breaths. And you have relaxed.
Your mind is calm and open. You are receptive to the fullness of your existence.
Now is the time to awaken to the message your negative emotion is sending.
Take in one deep breath. Tell yourself, “I am receiving the message my spirit is sending.”
Step 4: Curiosity may kill the cat. But it awakens the human mind.
Most emotions exist as a bridge. The bridge is the gap between where you are now and where you think you should be.
Negative emotions tell us two things. They tell us where we are in comparison where we thought we would be. And they tell us where we will be later compared to where we should be later.
Negativity represents a division between mind and reality.
Is we thought we’d be a million by age 30, and we’re actually struggling to pay off a loan, the mind creates negative emotions, saying “I am not where I said I would be.”
Negative emotions also inform us of where we are heading compared to where we want to be heading. “I want to become famous, but at this rate I’ll end up being nobody.”
In both those instances you have where you would like to be (now or late) and where you are OR where you will be.
Your negative emotions are essentially telling you “Hey. I’m going the wrong direction here. I need to rethink this.”
Now you know the purpose behind your negative emotions, you can use them.
To teach is to empower.
Your negative emotions are teaching you ways to improve your actions. And they’re empowering you to make real world changes.
Step 5: Accept the message. Appreciate it. And use it
You now know that your negative emotions are actually helping you. They’re saying “Hey. Heading the wrong direction. Please change the route.”
It’s like your negative emotions are a GPS. They know where you are. They know where you want to be. So they tell you how to get from A to B.
The moment you accept those negative emotions you can achieve genuine and lasting changes.
Your negative emotions are saying “This job’s kill me.” Okay. Find a way to change your job. Or stick with the job and make it healthier and more enjoyable.
Your negative emotions are saying “I’m going to get ill if I don’t start exercising.” Great. Start exercising and you’ll feel better.
Your negative emotions are saying “I’m not spending enough time with the kids.” Fantastic. Find a way to work more family time into your schedule.
This process is one of the best ways how to remain positive in negative times and when you have negative energy.
Your negative emotions are as valuable as your positive emotions. With these tips you now know how to use negative energy and emotions. What do you think about this.