- You lose your job
- You breakup
- You become ill
- You lose friends
- Sh*t happens
When things go wrong, mental fortitude helps us keep going, to stay strong so we don’t breakdown (literally, people with low mental fortitude are more likely to suffer from nervous breakdowns).
Some people wrongly believe that we are either born with mental fortitude or we are not. But it is a scientific fact that we can develop our mental strength. At any age, we have the potential to develop mental fortitude.
At the same time, we need to work on our inner strength. Repeated traumatic events, for instance, can seriously impact our mental strength and can even lead to problems like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, at which time serious effort is needed to regain mental strength.
We all suffer from peaks and troughs in mental fortitude. And we can all take steps to increase our inner strength and our personal courage.
There are many ways to do this. Mental exercise, for instance. Though of course, the mind is inexorably linked to the body, so for mental strength we also need physical strength.
Let’s take a look at my top 10 laws for mental fortitude and toughness.
The 10 Laws Of Mental Fortitude Tough People Live By
1. Tough people step back and see the picture in full
Stress is a matter of perspective.
If you hit rock bottom and you focus on how terrible you feel and how much you’ve failed, you’re going to feel lousy. But if you step back and look at the bigger picture, if you realise that this negative time is just one chord in a grand symphony called life, you’ll suddenly feel much more positive.
Step back and see the whole picture. Keep perspective.
2. Tough people tell themselves that they’ll learn from the bad times
People with mental fortitude recognise that there is a reason for bad times.
Bad times don’t happen to good people. Bad times make good people. It’s when you go through hell that you find your inner strength. It’s when you face hard times that you learn important life lessons.
Tell yourself that a bad time is just a lesson you’re going to learn, and that once you learn the lesson you’ll be that much stronger. That’s what the most resilient people do.
3. Tough people live for this moment right now
It’s easy to make the mistake of exaggerating the extent of the mess you’re in when sh*t goes down. You face one bad time and it feels like it’s game over. You find a lump on your body and you think you’ve got cancer. But most lumps aren’t cancer and most bad times aren’t game over. When you face a bad time, tell yourself it’s just one moment, just one thing, it’s not the be all and end all.
4. For mental fortitude, embrace change
It is human nature to fear change.
But changes happen for a reason. And sometimes what seems like a change for the worse is actually a change for the better.
Find the opportunity in metamorphosis.
If your relationship ends, it’s a chance to find a stronger one. If you fall out with friends you’ll just find better ones. Change is an opportunity for improvement. Embrace the change and make the most of the opportunities that arise.
5. To develop mental fortitude, trust life
A huge part of a highly resilient mentality is the ability to trust life.
If you’re driving and you hit a patch of black ice, the best way to regain control is to turn into the skid. Same with life.
If you hit an unseen change in your life, go with it. Life has its own direction. Sometimes, all you need do is sit back and ride the waves.
6. Tough people remember that there are others who are way worse
It’s so easy to think that your own problems are immense. Often, we focus on ourselves and we think that life is just so much harder and worse for us.
At those times, highly resilient people step back and get a sense of perspective. They allow themselves to consider all those people who have it harder (and there are millions of them).
It’s hard to think your problem are that great when you consider all the people starving around the world. Once you get a sense of perspective you realise your own problems are usually pretty trivial.
7. Tough people admit they need help
One of the most important traits of truly resilient people is the ability to put their hands up in the air and say, “I’m in a tight spot, please help me.”
So many people are afraid to ask for help. They believe asking for help is a sign of weakness. That’s a terrible attitude. Truly strong people don’t mind admitting that they’re not perfect, and they don’t mind asking for help when they need it.
8. Tough people see hope in adversity
It’s been proven that one of the most important traits is hope. Hope gives us inner strength.
Highly resilient people know that bad times are there to offer a challenge.
Think about how bland life would be if it were always easy. There’d be no tests, no need for inner strength. Bad times are a fight. You step in the ring and you fight back and you learn how strong you are, and even if you take the occasional punch all it does is wake you up.
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9. Tough people connect with their reason
It’s easier to have mental fortitude when you find your core reason for being.
Personally, when I need resilience I turn to history. I think about the most resilient people ever, people like Martin Luther King, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Joan of Arc, Mother Theresa…. They all faced astronomical adversity. How did they get through? For my money, they got through on the back of one thing: They cared so deeply about their pursuits that they simply couldn’t fail. It’s like those stories of mothers who find the strength to lift trucks or cars off their children; they do it because they can’t not do it.Connect with your inner passion, with the fire in your belly. Let it burn like coals in a steam engine. That energy will power you through. Click To Tweet
10. Tough people know how to refuel their energy
Having mental fortitude means maintaining your energy.
Life gets you down. You run out of energy. Either you recharge your energy or your spent. Often it’s that simple. That’s why the most resilient people know precisely how to recharge their energy.
How do you recharge your energy? Do you meditate? Do you go to a spa? Do you go for a run? Perhaps you straight up get the hell out of dodge and go on vacation. Whatever you need to do, do it; get your head back in the game and when you’re ready step back up to the plate.
Mental fortitude is the foundation on which a strong person is built.
Who is the strongest person you know?
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