As a meditation teacher, many people ask me for a meditation to attract a soulmate, to cultivate self-love, or to enhance the connection in an existing relationship.
And the good news is that you definitely can manifest love through meditation. And I have seen this work for many of my students.
You might wonder how meditation can help. Well, for starters, meditation actually makes us more attractive. Plus, it helps us develop the mindset of Loving Kindness. Finally, it boosts compassion and self-esteem.
Furthermore, research from Yale University shows that mindfulness creates a deep form of selfless-love. In other words, it makes you a better lover.
1: Guided Meditation For Love
Love Meditation Script
- Start by sitting in a comfortable position. Place your feet at shoulder-width apart. This will help you to feel grounded. Now make sure your butt is comfortable. Let your spine be elongated just a little. Tuck your chin down a little towards your chest to gently lengthen your neck. Roll your shoulders back. Gently sway your head from side to side to relax your neck. Now sit with good posture.
- For this meditation, we want to use a mudra. Mudras are hand gestures used in Buddhism, Hinduism, and yoga. They activate acupressure points to stimulate certain qualities of mind. Yogapedia states that the best mudra for love is the Lotus Mudra. We use this mudra to open the Heart Chakra. To do this, hold your hands together in prayer position. Now curl both hands outwards, while holding the thumbs and little fingers together. Your hands will look like a flower opening. You can see a picture of the Lotus mudra in #7, below.
- Breathe in through your nose and observe your breath moving through your body down into your diaphragm. Watch your breath for a minimum of twenty breaths. This will stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system to help you relax, while also strengthening the limbic system, which is vital for emotional regulation.
- Begin to recite a mantra. The mantra is, “I welcome love into my life”. Recite this mantra slowly, repeatedly, while continuing to focus on your breathing.
- Inevitably, while doing this meditation, you will experience some negative thoughts and feelings, and perhaps memories associated with past relationships. Some of them might be painful, like a thought of breaking up with someone. When you observe a thought or feeling, imagine taking a step back from it. Now calmly observe it. Tell yourself, “This is just a thought or feeling. It is not real. I am here now. And I am welcoming love into my life.”
- Continue to meditate in this fashion for a minimum of twenty minutes. It is quite normal to experience emotions during this meditation. Love is a double-edged sword that is as beautiful as it is painful. Like me, you’ve probably been burned, and while you meditate you might think of memories of broken relationships. That’s natural. Simply observe the memories, let them pass, and continue to meditate.
- At the end of your meditation session, say to yourself, “I am ready to receive love from the universe.”
2: Kundalini meditation
Kundalini yoga is a 400-year-old spiritual system that liberates the mind and spirit. It opens the heart and soul, so you are ready to receive affection and desire from other people.
To open your heart and mind, use the ancient breathing technique called Breath of Fire.
- Sit with a straight spine and good posture.
- Start pumping your abdomen in and out while breathing out of your nose.
- Your breath will be panting, like a fluffy little puppy on a hot and humid day.
- You should be breathing at around two breaths per second.
- Lift your arms above your head and hold them apart at a 60-degree angle.
- Curl your fingers, so the fingertips touch the base of your fingers. The thumbs should be pointing straight upwards.
- You will feel the sensation of a bolt of electricity pulsing between the tips of your thumbs and igniting your aura.
- Allow yourself to experience this pleasant sensation for two minutes.
- When you finish, lift your arms above your head, touch your thumbs together, hold your breath, and stay in that position for a few moments before gradually returning to a relaxed sitting position.
- Spread your fingers wide and gradually breathe out.
Through this practice, stress will evaporate to nothingness and the mind and soul will be lifted above the waves. You will achieve a heightened state of consciousness. You may experience strong emotions as subconscious blockages are eradicated.
3: Loving-Kindness Meditation
You might have heard about this technique from famous meditation teachers like Pema Chodron and Sharon Salzberg. It is a powerful way of generating self-love. And that is crucial.
Psychological studies show that we must have self-love if we want to enjoy strong relationships . When we do not have a love for ourselves, the mind refuses to acknowledge the love of others. In fact, people who have self-hatred seek out negative relationships that validate the way they feel about themselves. You see, the mind always seeks to prove its own beliefs, even if those beliefs are negative.
To create self-love, use Metta (Loving Kindness). Studies show that Metta produces positive emotions, including love and compassion.
Bhakti is a meditation in which we show devotion to the thing we love. Many people use Bhakti to show love to a deity. But you can also do it to express your love to another person.
To perform Bhakti, simply meditate on the one you love.
5: Kleem Mantra
Kleem is an ancient Hindu mantra used to attract people into our lives.
According to scriptures, recitation of this powerful mantra will create a magnetic attraction that will quickly manifest love. It is traditionally used by single males who wish to attract a female. The mantra is simply “Kleem”.
6: Meditative Love-Making
There are many spiritual techniques for intimacy. And many of these methods can enhance your relationship.
Some of these exercises are very intimate. For instance, you can meditate while making love. And goodness me, does that heighten the passion.
If you’re interested in finding out more, read my guide to Intimate Meditation for couples.
7: Lotus Mudra
Mudras are hand gestures that are used in Indian spiritualities. They are said to bestow certain benefits on us. They work by using acupressure points in the hands to stimulate regions of the brain.
One example of a mudra is the Lotus mudra.
- To perform the lotus mudra, bring the palms of your hands together and open them like a flower.
- Now, join the thumbs and little fingers together side by side.
- Finally, place your hands in front of your chest and hold them for 108 breaths. This will encourage positive relationships.
You can make this more effective by using romantic music and candles. Create a romantic space and meditate while holding your hands in the position described above. This will activate the regions of your brain associated with compassion.
You can also do this with your lover. Doing so will help the two of you to develop a better understanding and compassion for one another, which will strengthen the relationship.
8: Guided Meditation 2
Of course, there are many guided meditations for love. You can find them all over Youtube, Headspace, Calm, Buddhify, Insight Timer and others. The one I have shared above is my favourite.
So now we have looked at meditating on love. The methods we have covered in this guide will help you to welcome a positive relationship into your life.
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Paul Harrison BSc is a qualified meditation teacher who believes in genuine, authentic meditation. He has more than 15 years experience in teaching meditation and mindfulness both to individuals and to corporations and is the author of four books on meditation. He has been featured in Psychology Today, Breathe Magazine, Healthline, Psych Central and Lion’s Roar.
Paul studied meditation in beautiful Oxford, UK, and Hamilton Ontario Canada, and earned his degree at Staffordshire University.
Paul’s biggest inspirations include Thich Nhat Hanh, Jon Kabat Zinn, and Jack Kornfield.
“My goal is to provide the most authentic meditation sessions so you can harness the power of your own mind for personal transformation” – Paul Harrison