As a meditation teacher, many people ask me about using meditation to attract love.
The good news is that you can manifest love through meditation. Indeed, there are some excellent meditations to attract the one you love. Not only does meditation make you more attractive, but it can help you to develop the mindset of Loving Kindness.
Indeed, the more we practice mindfulness the more loving we become and the more attractive we become. Because meditation boosts qualities like sympathetic joy, empathy, compassion, and equanimity, meditation helps us find love. In fact, the mere quality of focusing on the present moment with a non-judgmental attitude helps to heal the heart after a breakup; to awaken us to feelings of warmth, intimacy, and mutual tenderness; and to develop self-love.
Furthermore, research from Yale shows that mindfulness creates a deeper form of selfless-love. In other words, it even makes you a better lover! [from the article, “Meditation helps pinpoint neurological differences between two types of love”, by Judson Brewer and Kathleen Garrison, postdoctoral researcher in Yale’s Department of Psychiatry,]
Yes, there are ways how to manifest love through meditation. In fact, I have helped many people overcome breakups and find love in my online meditation lessons. Let me show you how.
8 Types of Meditation to Attract Love
Use these meditations to attract love so you can enjoy the perfect relationship.
1: Meditation For Love Script.
When we use meditation for love, we want to overcome negative feelings about relationships. Essentially, we want to get rid of any anger and hostility that we might feel. Also, we want to reconnect with the living moment. And from there, we want to open the heart to be receptive to affection, devotion, and endearment. Here is how to do it.
- Start by sitting in a meditation chair (or any comfortable chair). Place your feet at shoulder-width apart. This will help you to feel grounded, which is important when using meditation for love. Now make sure your butt is comfortable on the chair. Let your spine be elongated just a little. Tuck your chin down a little towards your chest to gently lengthen your neck. Roll your shoulders back. Gently sway your head from side to side to relax your neck. Now sit with good posture.
- For this meditation, we want to use a mudra for love. Mudras are hand gestures used in Buddhism, Hinduism and yoga. They activate acupressure points to stimulate certain qualities of mind. Yogapedia states that the best mudra for love is the Lotus Mudra, which is used to open the Heart Chakra. To do this, hold your hands together in prayer. Now curl both hands outwards, while holding the thumbs and little fingers together. Your hands will look like a flower opening. You cn see a picture of the Lotus mudra in #7, below.
- Breathe in through your nose and observe your breath moving through your body down into your diaphragm. Watch your breath for a minimum of twenty breaths. This will stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system to help you relax, while also strengthening the limbic system, which is vital for emotional regulation.
- Now I want you to begin to recite the mantra for love. The mantra is, “I welcome love into my life”. Recite this mantra slowly, repeatedly, while continuing to focus on your breathing.
- Inevitably, while doing this meditation for love, you will experience some negative thoughts and feelings, and perhaps memories associated with past relationships. Some of them might be painful, like a thought of your ex breaking up with you. When you observe a thought or feeling, imagine taking a step back from it. Now calmly observe the thought or feeling. Tell yourself, “This is just a thought or feeling. It is not real. I am here now. And I am welcoming love into my life.”
- Continue to meditate in this fashion for a minimum of twenty minutes. It is quite normal to experience some emotions during this meditation. Love is a double-edged sword that is as beautiful as it is painful. No doubt you have been burned and you may think of memories of broken relationships. That’s natural. Simply observe the memories, let them pass, and continue to meditate.
- At the end of your meditation session, say to yourself, “I am ready to receive love from the universe.”
This is my favourite meditation for love. However, there are other methods too so let’s look at those.
2: Kundalini Yoga Meditation To Attract Love
This is a Kundalini yoga meditation to attract love. Kundalini yoga is a 400-year-old spiritual system that liberates the mind and spirit. Kundalini Yoga opens the heart and soul, so you are ready to receive affection and desire from other people. This receiving is everything because there is always warmth and affection available to us. What we really need to do is not so much manifest affection but welcome the loving energy that is already there, but which we have been blind to.
When you open your heart and mind, you will find the affection and tenderness you are seeking.
To open the heart and mind, use the ancient breathing technique called Breath of Fire, which is an excellent meditation for attracting love.
- Sit with a straight spine and good posture.
- Start pumping your abdomen in and out while breathing out of your nose.
- Your breath will be panting, like a fluffy little puppy on a hot and humid day.
- You should be breathing at around two breaths per second.
- Lift your arms above your head and hold them apart at a 60-degree angle.
- Curl your fingers, so the fingertips touch the base of your fingers. The thumbs should be pointing straight upwards.
- You will feel the sensation of a bolt of electricity pulsing between the tips of your thumbs and igniting your aura.
- Allow yourself to experience this pleasant sensation for two minutes.
- When you finish, lift your arms above your head, touch your thumbs together, hold your breath, and stay in that position for a few moments before gradually returning to a relaxed sitting position.
- Spread your fingers wide and gradually breathe out.
This is a powerful meditation for love and attraction. It will produce internal changes in your mind and spirit.
Through this practice, stress will evaporate to nothingness and the mind and soul will be lifted above the waves. You will achieve a heightened state of consciousness. You may experience strong emotions as subconscious blockages are eradicated. This is normal. The Fire Breathing method releases subconscious blocks to restore flow and to enable you to receive tenderness and affection.
This is one of the most powerful meditations for love that exists. It is a timeless practice that will lift your spirit to a higher plane.
3: Loving-Kindness Meditation
Another great meditation for attracting love is Loving Kindness Meditation.
You might have heard about this technique from famous meditation teachers like Pema Chodron and Sharon Salzberg.
Psychological studies show that we must have self-love if we want to enjoy strong relationships .
When we do not have affection for ourselves, the mind refuses to acknowledge the affection of others. In fact, people who have self-hatred seek out negative relationships that validate the way they feel about themselves. The mind always seeks to prove our beliefs, even if our beliefs are negative.
If you believe you do not deserve tenderness and affection, you will never receive it. That’s the bad news. Let’s spin it like we’re playing Spin The Bottle. Love yourself, and you will receive love. Period.
To create self-love, use Metta (Loving Kindness).
Loving Kindness is one of the most beautiful and most important of all Buddhist meditations. This powerful technique cultivates feelings of kindness and affection that radiate from your spirit and extend all around you.
When you practice this exercise, you conquer any negative feelings in yourself, and you open your mind and heart to the experience of pure love.
You can use this technique to attract a girl through meditation.
Loving Kindness is also very powerful for self-love. In fact, most meditation teachers advocate using Metta to create self-love (for instance, Jack Kornfield, Sharon Salzberg, Tara Brach, and Pema Chodron).
In the article “The effect of loving-kindness meditation on positive emotions: a meta-analytic review”, researchers from the Department of Psychology at The Chinese University of Hong Kong revealed that Metta is excellent for producing positive emotions in general, so not only will it help you find love, but it will also make you much happier.
Plus, it helps after a breakup when you might stop being receptive to love.
There are many reasons why we stop being receptive to love. Past breakups, anger, resentment, learned negative attitudes about relationships, these can all prevent us from receiving love in the moment. Loving Kindness will help you to move forward with an open heart and mind.
4: Bhakti meditation for devotion
Bhakti technique is a means of opening the heart to the love of a deity.
If you visit a Buddhist temple in Tibet, you will find monks seated in Lotus position offering devotion to Buddha through this sacred technique. The scriptures state that Bhakti meditation has a spirit-transforming power and that by practising this technique you will absorb certain traits and mentalities of the object being worshipped.
Bhakti is a technique used for devotion. It is the expression of devotion to a god, to nature, or to anything that is deeply and truly treasured. To do it, we meditate on the object we love and aim to become one with it.
5: Kleem Mantra for attraction
The Kleem mantra for attraction is an ancient mantra from Hinduism that is a powerful way to attract someone into your life.
According to scriptures, recitation of this powerful mantra will create a magnetic attraction that will quickly manifest love.
This powerful mantra is traditionally used by single male Hindus who wish to attract a female. The mantra is simply “Kleem”.
6: Meditative Love-Making
There are many spiritual techniques for intimacy that can enhance the love in a relationship.
These meditations involve meditating while actually making love or while sitting naked with your partner. This heightens intimacy in the relationship. Personally, I find these meditations divine.
If you’re interested in finding out more, be sure to read my guide to Intimate Meditation for couples.
7: The Lotus Mudra for love and attraction
Mudras are hand gestures that are used in Indian spiritualities to bestow certain benefits on the practitioner. They work by using acupressure points in the hands to stimulate regions of the brain.
One example of a mudra is the Lotus mudra, used for love.
You can use the lotus mudra to attract soulmates. It is said to improve your understanding of other people and help you to have positive relationships This mudra also increases self-love. Remember, we need to cultivate self-love before we can receive love from others.
Here’s how to use the lotus mudra for attracting others:
- To perform the lotus mudra, bring the palms of your hands together and open them like a flower.
- Now, join the thumbs and little fingers together side by side.
- Finally, place your hands in front of your chest and hold them for 108 breaths. This will encourage positive relationships.
You can make this more effective by using romantic music and candles. Create a romantic space and meditate while holding your hands in the position described above. This will activate the regions of your brain associated with compassion.
You may also wish to practice this technique with your romantic partner. Doing so will help the two of you to develop a better understanding and compassion for one another, which will strengthen the relationship.
8: Guided Meditation for Love
Of course, there are very many guided meditations for love. You can find the all over Youtube, Headspace, Calm, Buddhify, Insight Timer and others. The one I have shared above is my favourite meditation to attract love.
So now we have looked at using meditation for love. The methods we have looked at in this guide will help you to cultivate the ideal mindset for welcoming a positive relationship into your life.
Paul Harrison is a passionate meditation teacher who believes in genuine, authentic meditation. He has more than 15 years experience in meditation and mindfulness. He studied meditation in beautiful Oxford, UK, and Hamilton Ontario Canada, and earned his degree at Staffordshire University.
“My goal is to provide the most authentic meditation sessions so you can harness the power of your own mind for personal transformation” – Paul Harrison