I decided to do a lot of research to try and discover the key traits of positive people to see what makes us happy.
Some of the results were truly surprising.
I came across hundreds of happy habits during my research (some a little obscure, including a man who spent one day a month living with his eyes closed, which he said heightened his senses).
This helped me write my Ultimate Guide To Happiness.
And I discovered 10 key traits of positive people that make us happier and healthier than everyone else.
Top 18 Traits Of Positive People
1: Positive People Aren’t Afraid To Put Themselves First.
I actually went up to a lot of positive people to ask what traits made them happy.
The most popular answer was to put yourself first sometimes, while still being kind and compassionate to other people.
This is vital because science has proven the importance of compassion. And science has shown that we need to be compassionate to others and self-compassionate too.
Genuinely positive people understand that it is not selfish to put yourself first.
Positive people understand that in order to be at their maximum they need time to themselves, and they often need to put their needs ahead of everyone else’s.
Thing is, for a lot of people it is not easy to put yourself first.
Lot’s of us feel guilty when we do that We think we’re selfish.
If that sounds like you, I’ve got new for you.
Firstly, you deserve to be happy.
And secondly, you need to know how to put yourself first.
2: Positive People challenge fear
Happy people understand that fear is the chief enemy of happiness.
In my research I met many happy people who intentionally found and overcame their fears.
They included a forty year old woman who had just been to the dentists, whom she dreads, and a rock climber who constantly sought out new challenges.
Fear is meant to be challenged. Positive people face fear head-on.
3: Positive People They have a reason for living
Every single positive person I met could tell me in one sentence what their main reason for living is.
Their reasons were wide ranging.
- Some lived to write novels
- some lived for family
- some wanted to make millions
- and some lived simply to make other people happy.
But one universal trait of positive people is that they knew their reason for living. They had found purpose.
4: Positive people accept that life is constant change
The happiest people are at peace with the fact that the world is constantly changing.
They understand that their current reality is temporary.
They know that good times end, bad times end, people move on, careers take new paths. They understand and they embrace it all.
One of the most popular Buddha quotes is:
5: Positive people are unapologetic about their desires
When I asked positive people “What can I do to make myself happy” a lot of them said to accept desire, not to cling to it or to obsess over it, but to accept desire and never apologise for it.
The most positive people in the world know what they want and they’re not about to apologize for it.
Whether they want money, to travel the world, to or to be the boss of their company, they accept and embrace their desires. They live life to the beat of their own drum.
6: Positive people share their wealth
When positive people who have money, they share it.
This backs up scientific research. Science recently proved that people who give money to others are actually happier than people who spend it on themselves. 
The other thing positive people do with money is spend it on experiences, not possessions.
Positive people who don’t have money don’t worry about it.
Do you have a negative relationship with money? If so, learn to change the way you think about money here.
7: Positive people don’t care about the popularity contest
Positive people know who they are and they accept who they are 100%.
Because they accept themselves completely they don’t feel a need to be accepted or liked by others.
If you like them, great.
If you don’t, who cares?
The trait of positive people is to love themselves for who they are, and not worry what other people think.
Self love is their mantra.
8: Positive people view rejection as protection
A lot of people fear rejection, whether that’s rejection from a job interview or rejection from a member of the opposite sex.
Positive people don’t worry about it.
if a positive person gets rejected by someone, they presume that someone better is coming along.
If a positive person is rejected for a job, they presume their career is headed somewhere even better.
9: Positive people believe in equality
Positive people believe that all people are equal.
They know that money, looks, and all that jazz don’t really reflect how good or bad a person is.
They treat all people equally, with the utmost respect.
10: Positive people know that we are one
Positive people know that all people are one. They feel the pain and sorrow of other people, but they also feel the happiness and joy of other people.
Because they feel connected to everyone around them, they never feel lonely. They see a stranger as a companion, a colleague as a friend.
11 : Positive people do no watch negative news
Within a couple of minutes of watching the news headlines you will likely be struck with many of the following types of stories:
- People being murdered
- Various forms of scandals
- News that the country is going down the crapper
- Accusations here and there about everybody doing the wrong thing
So what do you get out of watching the news? Well, a positive psychologist might likely say that you get to feel connected to society, to other people and to the world at large. That’s a fair point. Watching the news does make you feel connected to the world. Then again, is that world (the one presented by the news) a world worth being connected to?
To discover whether watching the news is a good thing for you or not, simply ask yourself this question: Do you feel more positive after watching the news than you did before? If not, stop watching the news.
12: Positive people share happiness with others
What, in your opinion, is the absolute best thing in the world? Money? Fame? Power? Sex? Chilling out with your feet up watching Netflix?
If you ask the happiest people in the world what the best thing in the world is, they’ll tell you one thing:
The best thing in the world is sharing happiness with other people.
You can throw out your credit card, kiss goodbye to your high-flying job, lose everything, and you will still be able to share happiness with other people. Because happiness costs absolutely nothing. It’s free. Like air. And just as important.
It’s mind blowing how some people genuinely think the world’s number one most important thing is money or power. They dedicate themselves to the pursuit of money and power. And then they go and get that money or power only to realise that it’s not what they thought it would be, and that they’re still not happy.
Did you know that suicide rates are higher among the rich?
Do you know why?
Because most rich people spend their entire lives trying to keep up with one another rather than having the guts to live their passion and to do the things that truly matter deep down.
People like that are terrified they might slip below other people in terms of wealth. They spend their lives trying to keep ahead of each other.
Spending your life trying to beat oher people is a terrible way to live.
Scientific research has proven that living your life in an attempt to keep up with other people is one of the main reasons why people end up killing themselves (source: BusinessInsider).
Why is it so unhealthy trying to keep up with the Jones’s? Because it carries you away from your truth. You spend so long tying to be better than other people that you forget what actually matters to you. And then when you get money and power you realise that that wasn’t what you even wanted in the first place, really. And worse, when you look back you realise that you lost sight of what matters and that it is painfully lonely at the top.
These people are the enlightened ones. Oh, they might not be the richest. They might not be famous. They might not have the best jobs. No, they don’t have those things. Because they spent all their lives thinking about other people and helping others. They are the highly sensitive empaths who know that compassion is the most important thing in the world.
13: Positive people love life
Perhaps the number one trait of positive people is that they love life. We have higher levels of life satisfaction than other people do.
You know that feeling when you see something so awe-inspiring, so beautiful, so divine that it makes you stop? It’s the way you feel when you see a stunning sunset, or when you witness an act of supreme kindness—I felt that way today when I saw a teenager give his school lunch to a homeless man. It’s that sense that life is so damn beautiful that you feel as small as an ant, albeit an ant so very glad to be part of such a stunningly beautiful world.
14. Positive people think in positive ways
Positive people know how to make themselves think positively. And they understand that positive thinking doesn’t just happen by itself.
Too many people dwell on negative thoughts and then wonder why they are experience stress and anxiety.
Positive people understand that they need to exercise the mind just like they exercise the body. And one of the most important ways to exercising the mind is to intentionally create positive thoughts.
For instance, we can:
Use positive visualistion
Challenge negative thoughts
Look at the good points of other people instead of the bad
Focus on what makes us happy
Refuse to dwell on worries
15. Positive people use exercise for both body and mind
Another key trait of positive people is their understanding of physical exercise.
Most people exercise their bodies, and perhaps are grateful for any knock-on effect that the exercise has on their minds.
Positive people know that if you’re going to workout, you might as well do exercises that are beneficial for both body and mind.
For instance, we can use yoga for positivity. And we can do mind-body exercises like tai chi and qigong. These are excellent for the both the body and the mind.
16. Positive people make the most of the morning
It has been proven that our willpower is at its strongest in the morning. That’s why one of the traits of positive people is that they make the most of the morning.
Whatever it is that they need to get done, they get it done first thing.
It could be working out, or completing an important project, or making an important decision.
Whatever the most important thing is in any given day, positive people will do it first thing in the morning.
17. Positive people feel all different kinds of happiness
It has been proven that there are 16 different types of happiness. So even if you are happy in one way, you might not be experience all the types of happiness.
Positive people know that they need to make themselves happy in various different ways. That’s why they incorporate different kinds of exercises and techniques in order to feel the full range of positive emotions.
However, while positive people believe in happiness, they also know that there is a reason for unhappiness.
18. Positive people have happy hobbies
One of the best ways to become a positive person is to start doing some happy hobbies.
Science has proven that hobbies are essential for mental health. And different hobbies effect us in different ways.
To become a positive person, try changing hobbies.
Some positive hobbies include:
- spending time at the beach
19. Positive People Are Hopeful
According to the scientific study of Positive Psychology, we absolutely must have hope in life
Hope is the ability to see the positive in future events, and especially the ability to see the possible positives of seemingly negative events.
Hope frames everything in a positive light and is the opposite of fear.
For stress relief, inner peace, calm and happiness, we need high levels of hope.
How many of these traits of positive people do you do?
These positive traits are proven ways to make us happy.
And remember, science has proven that positivity makes us healthier. So by including these positive traits in your daily routine, you’ll boost your well-being as well as your happiness.
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