“Why wont I let myself lose weight?” one of my friends recently asked. Then she sighed and said “I don’t deserve to be thin”.
I’m sure she’s not alone. And she raises a good question. Why don’t we let ourselves lose weight? Why do we think we don’t deserve to be thin?
I wanted to answer that question.So I grabbed my psychology books, scrawled through the internet, and found the answer. So let me share the answer with you. Here it is:
Amazingly, if you wont let yourself lose weight, it’s probably because you think you don’t deserve to be thin, and the only solution is to start to feel more positive about yourself.
So let’s do that. Let’s stop sabotaging our weight loss programs. Let’s put our minds in the right place.
Here’s the truth.
We all deserve to be thin. We all deserve to be healthy. We all deserve to be happy. And if for one second you think that you don’t deserve to be thin and healthy, then I want you to stop, look yourself in the mirror, realise how good a person you are, and know that you deserve the best.
If you struggle to feel positive about yourself, then trust me I know where you’re coming from. I’ve been there. Few years back I hit depression. Changed my life. And I felt worthless. That’s why I started practicing loving kindness meditation. It’s a technique that help you feel good about you. Try it. You can read my complete guide to loving kindness meditation here.
Having the right mind-set is important to losing weight.
We all know that life is about mind over matter, right? If you have your mind in the right place you will succeed, period. And if you think you will fail, you probably will. So when it comes to dieting, if you think you deserve to lose weight, you will. And if you don’t… well, let’s not go there. Let’s be positive. We need the right mindset for success.
Healthy eating is about so much more than the food you put in your mouth. It’s about the reasons you choose to eat what you eat. It’s about psychology.
It’s amazing just how much of a difference your mind makes. A few years ago I used to be a stress eater. Needed my comfort food. A lot. And I got chubbier. And that didn’t make me feel any better about myself.
But then I researched the reasons why I was a stress eater. And what I learned changed my life and helped me to lose weight. It transformed me. And I want to help you to do the same.
One of the most fascinating things I discovered is this: over-eating is a form of self punishment.
We all feel angry at ourselves from time to time. And when we’re angry at ourselves we try to punish ourselves by overeating. Conversely, when you love yourself, when you forgive yourself, when you have a good relationship with yourself, you are more likely to overcome addictions and to be healthy.
Science proves that self love and self forgiveness can cure addictions
The University of Wisconsin recently researched the affects of self forgiveness on addictions. They wanted to know whether forgiving yourself would help you to overcome addictions, including overeating. And they found some staggering results.
“We believe that the full recovery from substance abuse cannot be reached without fully forgiving of self and others,” the researchers report. “Forgiveness, by reducing levels of anger, resentment, depression,and anxiety, may prevent relapse, promote acceptation of self and strengthen relationships with others.”
In other words, not only is it hard to give up addictions if you’re angry at yourself or others, but it may be outright impossible. If you are addicted to eating, you must forgive yourself and others in order to beat that addiction.
So, if, like my friend, you’re asking why you don’t let yourself lose weight, it just might be because you don’t think you deserve to lose weight, because you are angry at yourself.
And if that is the case, to lose weight you must forgive yourself and find self love.
The science shows that you might as well toss those diet books out. Go ahead, chuck ‘em. You can dispose of those diet pills too. The only thing you really need to do is take a look inside, forgive yourself, and love yourself.
This news really is amazing and completely changes the way we feel about dieting, doesn’t it? Because it proves that dieting isn’t so much about forcing yourself to eat only salads as it is forgiving yourself and finding self love.
Your mind is what matters. Get your mind in the right place and your body will follow. And here’s a little bit of advice that you might find helpful…
Get your friends and your dieting partners, and feed each other positivity
Yup. Go ahead. Grab your friends. Tell them that health is about self love and forgiveness. Then go ahead and lavish each other with compliments. Seriously, I’m not joking. Feed each other positivity. This will breed self love, and self love will make you shed the pounds faster than any diet pill ever could.
And speaking of feeding each other positivity, let’s do it right now. Share a comment below. A positive comment, please. Then other people will read your comment and feel more positive about dieting. Come on, let’s do this. Let’s feel good about ourselves. Because when we truly love ourselves, we will lose weight and become thin and healthy, and then we’ll look in the mirror and just feel absolutely wonderful about what we’ve accomplished.