“Life is easy to chronicle, but bewildering to practice.” – E. M. Forster quote
Life does not have to be hard. There are ways to make life easy.
Yes, I know, conventional wisdom says that life is hard.
I beg to differ.
We can make life easy if we choose to.
It’s all about having a successful mindset.
There will always be elements of life that can be perceived as a challenge, as a hardship. Buddha taught that there is always suffering.
But the mind creates reality.
Reality is nothing more than an infinity of particles spinning through space. What creates personal reality is the way in which we choose to interpret those particles. And interpretation is a matter of attitude.
When we change our attitude we change the way we perceive reality, and the universe responds.
A bad attitude can make life hard.
A good attitude can make life easy.
But just what is an attitude, really?
I researched attitudes and their effect on us and found some fascinating facts.
In the book Social Psychology, Hogg & Vaughan state that attitude is “a relatively enduring organization of beliefs, feelings, and behavioral tendencies towards socially significant objects, groups, events or symbols.”
Attitudes are a combination of feelings and emotions, behaviour, and belief.
For instance, “I have a good attitude towards other people because I feel connected to them and I believe most people are good, so I choose to actively be nice to others”.
Some attitudes are stronger than others. For instance, if we have a very firm belief about something, that belief is likely to result in consistent behaviour. A less established belief will effect our attitude less.
Naturally this means that we can change our attitude by changing our beliefs.
But what attitudes are best?
7 Enlightened Attitudes Will Make Life Easy
1. Appreciating whatever comes along:
Question: What do we actually mean when we say life is hard?
Most people mean is that it is hard to make life the way you want it.
In other words, it’s hard to shape life to our desire.
Another question: why bother.
There are two elements to that sentence above: it is hard to [make life] [the way we want it].
Foolishly, everyone focuses on the first half of the sentence: making life something.
They would be much happier if they focused on the other half what they want.
It’s like the story of Buddha:
A monk says to Buddha, “I want happiness”.
Buddha says, “Okay. Remove want, that’s desire. Now remove “I”, that’s ego. See. Now you have happiness. (
How to have this attitude:
- If life is not what you want, learn to like what life is.
- Appreciate things the way they are.
- Do not try and force life to comply to a delusional mindset.
- Appreciate life and it comes to you.
- Read my guide to developing gratitude
Like the Dale Carnegie quote says, “Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get”.
Plus, gratitude is one of the most effective ways of building good karma.
2. Feeling content:
There is a famous Buddha quote that says:
We are never truly wealthy until we feel content.
Wealth is more than just the money in our bank accounts. True wealth is spiritual contentment. It’s feeling good about the world at large.
Life is so much easier when we are spiritually content. And it is easy to become spiritually content.
Take a look at these tips to feel satisfied in life. They’re easy ways to feel spiritually content.
3. See the triumph in adversity:
Most people become convinced that “life is hard” when they face adversity.
To make life easy, appreciate the challenge.
There is this misguided notion that success means overcoming adversity.
Genuine success means recognising the beauty and value of adversity itself.
When we understand the intrinsic good in life’s challenges, we stop worrying about success or failure, about easy or hard, we learn to appreciate the journey.
We can go through life’s challenges without being destroyed by them. We can stay positive in negative times.
4. Live moment at a time:
Enlightened people always focus on the present moment, not on the distant future.
There is a rule in psychology that says that we should only ever focus on the step we are on right now.
If you’re climbing a mountain, don’t focus on the miles you have to climb, focus on the next step. Then what seems impossible will seem easy.
This little attitude adjustment can change our perspective and make us realise that actually, life is easy provided we go one step at a time.
5. Know that love is always the right course:
Conflicts make life hard.
The greatest conflict of all is when our love or passion faces off against rationality and logic.
Logic is a valuable tool.But it is nowhere near as vital or powerful as love.
Love is always right.
Sure, it’s often painful.
Sometimes it leads us to crazy-town.
But it is always right.
Even if we cannot see that love is right, it is.
That’s why you should stop working hard and just do what you love instead.
Love is a test.
It says, “Are you brave enough to follow me”.
The enlightened scream “Yes” in response. That is why they live such large and loud lives.
6. Have Faith:
Cast out your ores and trust in the ocean’s currents to carry you where they will.
There is a power controlling our destiny. And it sure as hell is not us. To make life easy, recognise the higher power.
We may be given free will to help guide our vessel, but it is the universe’s ship, not ours. We are just blessed to exists in this vast ocean for a short spell.
Trust that life will carry you to your destination. Have faith in the cosmic powers of the universe.
And always remember how important hope is too.
7. Know what wasn’t meant for you:
The serenity prayer says, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”
Enlightened people know what was meant for them.
Unenlightened people do not.
Just because you want something doesn’t mean you’ll get it. And it doesn’t mean you need it. It just means you happen to be experiencing an emotional state of mind that is telling your brain that you have a desire for something.
Some things are not meant for us. And to make life easy, we need to accept that.
Let go of what is not yours. Then you will embrace the infinity of things are uniquely yours, the myriad splendorous gifts the universe bestows on you.
The right attitude makes a huge difference in life. Not only does positivity make us healthier, but a good attitude leads to an enlightened perspective that can revolutionise our lives.
With the right attitude we can live easier lives.
Yes, life can seem hard.
Life can seem easy too.
Perceptions change like weather.
Me and you?
We’re just dust dancing in the light of the stars.